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I am a young white male and have often had opportunities taken away from me because of my gender and race. I have often met people of other backgrounds who tend to automatically discriminate against me. It’s considered ‘OK’ for me to be discriminated against, but I have to walk on eggshells so as to not offend anyone else. I am just wondering if anyone else has noticed this. I do not judge people by their color, sex or background. I judge them by meeting them, talking with them and finding out their views on the world around them.
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Name : Brandon, Gender : M, City : Las Vegas, State : OK, Country : United States,I’ve often wanted to know exactly what white males have experienced in terms of discrimination. For instance, you say opportunities have been denied you because of your gender and race. I’m curious, when you have been denied a job, does the HR manager tell you you didn’t get it because you were a white male? I’m a black female, and although I’ve wondered about the reasons for being denied a job, I’ve never been able to definitively determine that ‘race’ was the reason for the denial. Therefore, I’m just wondering if white males are supplied some special post-interview information that the rest of us aren’t privy to.
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Name : Gwen, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 52, City : Pittsburgh, State : PA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am a white male and I always get the jobs I want. They always tell me specifically it is because I am a white male. They say that if I were not a white male, I would never have been offered the job. Furthermore, I got a full scholarship to college for being a white male. It was called the ‘You are a white male’ scholarship. I don’t know what this other guy was talking about. I think that perhaps he was just underqualified.
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Name : Owen, Gender : M, Race : Soooo white, Age : 26, City : Massillon, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : White Male, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,Why yes lynn when I was in High shcool I applied for several Things, 1. Howard Huges Sicence Foundatoin, denied. I called asked why the nice lady on the phone said 1. Your White (A majordy) 2. Your Male (A Majordy) 3. You are middle\upper class (A Majordy) ‘Simply put young man, you do not fill a quota. Its not fair but its life’ —— Next up, I Was trying to get funding for school, however because of my race I was not allowed to Apply for certan ‘Grants’ but any race or Creed could offer competoin for the grants I was applying for. Again didnt fill a quota. I feel that in america we are all americans, Grab what you can, if you cant get along tuff. Maybe its not fair, I know for a long time that People of a Non white back ground were severly descriminated agents, however, Now it is so over sensitive that is has tunred a full 180. You have probally missed jobs and opertunitys because of your color, but if you dont ask then dont complain. I asked I thought the responce was unfair, but yet I could do nothing. If the tables had been turned they would not have dared to say such things to me. You and I both know that is true. So why some ask for help, and get it, others are passed by, and its not fair. B
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Name : Brandon, Gender : M, City : Las Vegas, State : OK, Country : United States,Unfortunately, your question doesn’t indicate how you know truthfully that the people being granted opportunities over you were equally or less qualified than yourself. It’s a good idea to find out from a prospective employer where YOU were lacking in your resume or interview, however an employer would be crossing a dangerous line by revealing to a non-employee the lacking qualifications of a known, newly-hired employee. Therefore, I can only ‘assume’ that you are ‘assuming’ that those of a race other than your own who are granted opportunities over you are less qualified than you — and, as with most assumptions, it is often incorrect. Did you ever think that they could have possibly been more qualified and, thus, deserved the opportunities over the other candidates? It does happen, you know! Honestly, though, there are people who will misplace their anger on you because you are a white male and because of the past (and current) atrocities committed by other white males. I can imagine that some of what you are experiencing is actually happening. You do understand that you can’t control what others do, but you can control yourself. Therefore, it is difficult to keep it from happening to you, but it is easier to ensure that you don’t adopt the same practices against someone else.
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Name : N E, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 37, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Professional, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’ve been alive for a little longer than you, and I have never seen it written nor heard it spoken that it’s ‘OK’ to discriminate against white men. I’ve always heard that it is not all right to discriminate against anyone. Is it possible that people ‘automatically’ discriminate against you because your first impression seems to them to be that of a jerk? How did you find out that you lost opportunities because of your race and gender? No one has ever told me if they were depriving me of something because I am a black man. Also, there is no historical precedent to legitimately make the claim that deprivation occurs due to one being a white man. Since you are 21, it is possible you were deprived because of your age, not your gender or race. Also, how do you dress? That could be a factor.
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Name : Robert, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 23, City : Cincinnati, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,If you are a white male and can’t get ahead, you are simply a loser. Being white, and especially a white male, is all about having doors open at your approach. Being a black male in America is about hearing the lock click just as you reach for the handle. Yet I have a master’s in computer science and am a department head. And no, I didn’t go to school via affirmative action or athletic scholarship; it was a mathematics scholarship.
Of course, if I were a fair-haired white guy, my boss would be trying to give me his daughter’s hand in marriage. Still, just by being a white male and knowing white people, you could easily rise to professional heights that simply aren’t open to me in corporate America. That is, if you stop spending all your time in the pursuit of weed and Doritos and move out of your mom’s basement.
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Name : Paul S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Oak Park, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : software engineer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I’m a white guy and feel no sympathy when I hear another white male say something to the effect of ‘Oh, poor me, I am discriminated against because I’m a white guy.’ What garbage. I’ve never felt discriminated against, and I don’t discriminate against others. I try my best to live by the Golden Rule and treat others as I would like to be treated. The only way we can ever get past this racism crap is to treat everyone we meet in the same manner in which we would like to be treated by others.
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Name : K26947, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 32, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States,Paul being a black male in America you must have heard the lock click just as you reached for the handle. Yet you have a master’s in computer science and are a department head. You did all of this without affirmative action. Following your line of reasoning there are only two ways you could have accomplished this, either you were just lucky or you are better than most black males in America. Which is it? Or could there be another possibility?
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Name : geo, City : orlando, State : FL, Country : United States,That was a very, very racist response. So, everyone sees — racism is based solely on race. It’s the individual. I could have easily said: Black people are racist! That’s not the point I’m trying to get across. And it’s not the right one.
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Name : Mike Mills, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 16, City : Marion, State : IA, Country : United States, Occupation : School..., Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,
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