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- July 22, 2003 at 12:00 am #2047
NeilParticipantRegarding sexual intercourse: Why do some gay people prefer being the socket, and others the plug?
User Detail :Name : Neil, City : Bass, State : NA Country : Confidential, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, July 27, 2003 at 12:00 am #19258
MikeParticipantThere could be a couple of reasons. A 'bottom' (or socket as you say) could prefer stimulation of the prostate gland over stimulation of the penis to achieve orgasm. Or it could be a matter of size: the bottom's penis may be too small to stimulate another's prostate, or too big for comfortable, pain-free penetration of the anus. Most gay couples I know tend to go either way. I only have one friend who is solely bottom, because he has only a three-inch erection and can achieve a better orgasm through stimulation of his prostate.
User Detail :Name : Mike, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 42, City : Ben Lomand, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, July 27, 2003 at 12:00 am #26608
Mark22110ParticipantMost gay men (I assume you are talking about men here) like both. Some have a preference because one just feels better for them. Straight or gay, it's just different strokes for different folks.
User Detail :Name : Mark22110, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 47, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, December 2, 2003 at 12:00 am #24536
Stephen27816ParticipantThe large majority of gay people consider themselves 'versatile,' meaning they are open to all aspects of a same-sex physical liaison. While being the 'plug' has benefits that most straight men can also relate to, being the 'socket' provides direct prostate stimulation, which can provide intense orgasms. Additionally, some people have an innate desire to please their partner moreso than having to 'be pleased' themselves. This is common in both straight and gay sex, but is more definable in gay anal sex. That said, many gay people (men specifically), tend to avoid anal sex altogether. It is not a necessary component of a healthy sexual life.
User Detail :Name : Stephen27816, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 37, City : Toronto, Ontario, State : NA Country : Canada, Social class : Upper middle class, December 4, 2003 at 12:00 am #41650
JakkiMemberFor the same reason some women prefer to be on top and some on the bottom for heterosexual couples. It's just a matter of taste. Some guys like being the ute, some like being the beme. Hey, some straight guys like being the socket, too! So it's not really simple enough to be put in one post.
User Detail :Name : Jakki, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 18, City : Oshkosh, State : WI Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class, February 6, 2004 at 12:00 am #46102
Jay31349Participantthe socket-plug issue is one reason some guys avoid anal/oral, too hetero (which makes one partner 'the woman'), a lot of guys would fit the analogy of rubbing two sticks together to start a fire better than the electrical outlet metaphor; sorry, that was kind of graphic
User Detail :Name : Jay31349, City : Jonesboro, State : GA Country : United States, February 8, 2004 at 12:00 am #37215
Dave25995ParticipantI had always presumed it was a dominance/submissive thing (not the sexual kind, the personality kind). In relationships, a person (regardless of their gender) will tend to have either a dominant or a submissive personality. The dominant ones tend to be the leaders and protectors, the submissive ones tend to be the keepers of the emotions and feelings. For most of history, the vast majority of the population has had an almost 1:1 correlation of male with dominant and female with submission. But in this new world (where brute strength is not the only way of protecting one's mate) those links can be decoupled. A dominant can be dominant (and a submissive, submissive) independent of both their gender and their orientation.
User Detail :Name : Dave25995, City : Toronto, State : NA Country : Canada, November 28, 2004 at 12:00 am #37262
David PickrumParticipantSome one has too.
User Detail :Name : David Pickrum, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : British, Polish, Spanish, Muscolero Apache, Religion : Christian, Age : 48, City : Dallas, State : TX Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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