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It’s not a matter of being stuck up… it’s a matter of guilt. Associating with a lower class tends to draw too heavily on sympathies for many and they are forced to examine why they are a ‘have’ instead of a ‘have not.’ Reality’s a bitch.
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Name : Jeff31193, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 31, City : Davenport, State : IA, Country : United States, Occupation : consultant, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,People are more receptive to meeting new people in obviously social settings, versus on the street, etc. And people of significantly different socioeconomic classese don’t usually mingle in the same social settings. Were you attending a private party where these girls were present? Did a mutual friend introduce you? Were they in a class you were taking? Was there something you had in common before you approached them? If not, then you’d have a difficult time unless your appearance marked you as an obvious ‘catch’, i.e., successful, good-looking, and, yes, probably their same race. Approaching people ‘cold’, without an introduction or obvious point of connection, other than at a clearly social setting like a private party, is always iffy, and add your socioeconomic and ethnic factors, and you face a real uphill battle.
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Name : Dave26031, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I am a half white, half Chinese girl from one of the richest areas in the United States. I know a lot of girls here that fit your description perfectly. But it’s not always that they are resentful, just a little suspicious. When a girl knows she has a lot of money, it sometimes is hard to be nice to people because you don’t always know what they want from you. Lots of people just want to be your friend or be with you because you have lots of money. It is easier to relate to someone who has money because they know what your life is like. However, not all girls are like that. I’ve dated lots of people from lower classes and I find them just as interesting and wonderful as the guys who are rich. If you look hard enough, I’m sure you’ll find a rich girl who will appreciate you for you, not how much money you have.
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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : half white, half chinese, Age : 20, City : Tiburon, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,How would someone know how much money you have, if you’re in –say– the grocery store. Is there such a thing as a poor or middle-class look? Unless the lady is checking you over for namebrand clothing, I don’t know how she would know you’re not on her ‘level’–especially if you are considerably good-looking.
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Name : Ayanna, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 32, City : Atlanta, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : Implementation Support Specialist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The assumptions guys make about me because of my social class put me on the defensive. Guys will often start a conversation with ‘Hey you probably don’t want to talk to me but..’ and then I have to explain that that wasn’t true. So maybe the resentment you’re sensing comes from the girl resenting that she has to prove to you she’s not stuck up.
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Name : Alexandra31365, Gender : F, Religion : Jewish, City : Detroit, State : MI, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,If you talk to an upper-class lady, she will think you are hitting on her (which you probably are). If she is friendly to you, then you will continue talking to her every time you see her, which is annoying. It will also embarrass her in front of her friends if you are lower-class. Upper-class women don’t think much of lower-class men, and for good reason – they don’t have money because they are lacking in education, skills or potential, all of which a woman wants in a man. An upper-class woman knows she can get that in a man, so why would she bother wasting time on someone who obviously doesn’t have that potential? She wouldn’t. Therefore, she doesn’t want to talk to you if you are obviously lower-class.
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Name : Heather, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 31, City : Cleveland, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-employed - Internet, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Did you ever consider that maybe it’s what you say or how you say it? Maybe you’re just being annoying. Don’t blame it on the money honey, maybe just a simple hello will work.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 39, City : Fort Worth, State : TX, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am Native American and we treat all Latinos as if they were the same as us. Even if you were not Latino I would still respect you and listen to what you were coming to me with and not be concerned with status or money. A good heart is something money can’t buy.
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Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : American Indian, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : Roanoke Rapids, State : NC, Country : United States, Occupation : Healthcare, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Your question presumes that these rich girls SHOULD talk to you. Why should they? It is unfortunate that you feel insulted or slighted, but from their perspective you haven’t the money, the sophistication, education, class or breeding that would interest them. Ask yourself why you want them to pay attention to you. Is it to get validation from someone in a social class above you?
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Name : Rocky21056, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States,I grew up in a rich neighborhood (although we were the poor neighbors) and I married a black man. Why? Because he treated me right. He may not have finished high school but he is the most intelligent person I know. If the women are looking down on you, they aren’t worth your troubles.
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Name : Ericka, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : Bipolar, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : non-practicing, Age : 36, City : San Diego, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : computer specialist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Speaking within a race group and nationality (I’m a white Canadian), from what I’ve seen, half the time what you’re experiencing may have a lot to do with different manners and customs between classes. A male approach that might pass for cool, friendly and low pressure to lower-middle or working class women–say, a compliment right off the bat–might seem rude/threatening/pushy to a middle-upper middle class woman, because they’re used to a less straightforward approach from the guys they know. Flipside: you might get an apparently cool/snooty reaction from middle-upper class women, but she might think she’s being reasonably polite or even receptive, because that’s how a middle class guy would take it. And of course, there are all kinds of genuine snobs out there, too.
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Name : Eric29569, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian Universalist, Age : 32, City : Toronto, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Sociologically, in many cultures, throughout history, the female child is compelled to aspire to wed into a higher class than that in which she was born. Research has proven that to have manifested itself so thoroughly that it is often unconscious. We used to joke that my former sister-in-law was a rich kid who was born into a poor family.
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Name : Vail27405, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : mutt, Religion : Atheist, Age : 40, City : Philly, State : PA, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Those girls are probably not being intentionally snobby. More than likely, they just may not be used to having someone of another race hit on them and are unsure of how to react. Of course some of them may actually think they’re better than you, but for most of their reactions, I’d say they were just being shy or surprised in a sort of unintentionally rude way.
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Name : Kate19699, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Boston, State : MA, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class,Women tend to think about safty more than men- at least when it comes to being approached by a stranger. It doesn’t matter to me if the man is upper or lower class, I tend to proceed with caution. Although, a man in a suit sometimes seems to be less threatening. Maybe that’s just my own misconception.
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Name : Rebecca, Gender : F, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 40, City : Johnstown, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : teacher, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Well in my opinin, being a girl that is somewhat upper class, alot of it has to do with how you approach the girl. The way you comment, stare, approach, how persistent you are, etc really make a differnce. You are probably being interpretated as rude and myabe even a little creepy by these girls. You have to know how to approach them in a proper manner and be very respectful of them and their space. Some girls may only want guys with money but most of the time I think it is based on the approach.
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Name : Lynsey, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Indianola, State : MS, Country : United States,
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