[Chris32191]

My fiancee’s older brother has given many indications to us that he’s gay. (Copies of OUT Magazine, feminine behaviors beyond what we’d consider normal, a framed AIDS awareness red ribbon, links to Gayweb on his computer, etc.) She and I are getting married in December. Her brother will be an usher at the ceremony, clearly a heterosexual union. Any pointers on how to avoid problems on my most special day?
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Name : Chris32191, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Northville, State : MI, Country : United States, 

[Kip]

As a gay man who has been in many straight weddings, my advice is to treat him EXACTLY as you would treat anyone else on your special day. If he wants to bring a guy as a date, treat his date just as you would if one of your female friends brought a guy to the wedding. Let him be happy for you, and you be happy for him. But, it sounds like you probably need to have a discussion with him at some point to ask him if he’s gay. That’s a whole other issue, but, believe me, if he is gay and if you can handle it well and be happy for him, he WANTS you to ask him.

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Name : Kip, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Raised Christian, but now questioning, Age : 29, City : San Diego, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Accountant, but in film school, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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