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Recently I’ve been dating women who are attracted to African-American males (I’m half African-American and half Asian-American). They tend to talk about the large penis sizes of their previous African-American partners, which is intimidating to me because I’m not well-endowed like my African-American counterparts. My body is underdeveloped in general for my age, and I still lack facial hair. Is this something I should bring up, or are there other ways to work past this ‘lacking’ feature? I would want for the other person to feel comfortable if we engaged in sex.
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Name : Ken, Gender : M, Age : 21, City : Monterrey, State : CA, Country : United States,I’m in the same boat as you. I am below average and have found myself with size queens in the past. I’m sure that it has contributed to my one-night-stands at times, though I compensate in other areas like oral, foreplay, romance, kink, etc. just to keep it interesting. If a woman lets me know ahead of time that she’s picky about her size preferences, I usually will look elsewhere. While I believe size does matter to most, if not all, women, I also think that many also enjoy other aspects of sexuality as well, and I aim to please in those areas.
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Name : Seamus28224, Gender : M, Age : 23, City : Charlestown, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : Construction, Social class : Lower class,Im disgusted by people who have this kind of ‘preference’, so to speak. If a girl is not dating you for who you are, but over a stupid stereotype, she is nothing but a shallow sl** (pardon my French), and should never go anywhere near a guy like you.
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Name : ElsaMaria25345, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Orthodox Christian, Age : 18, City : Helsinki, State : NA, Country : Finland,It seems awful inconsiderate and trashy for ‘ladies’ to be bringing up such an issue as the penis size of former partners. Maybe you should just find a nice girl who has values that are above and beyond that, Don’t let it mess with your head.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Black men do not have a monopoly on large penises. Any man of any race or ethnicity can be well-endowed; likewise, any man of any race or ethnicity can be average or smaller than average. This stereotype is an ugly one, started by white people and continued by silly black men who define their manhood by the size of their penises. Ken, let me tell you a secret that will guarantee your success as a lover: learn the fine art of foreplay. Learn the erogenous zones of a woman. Learn the fine art of touching, of kissing, of caressing. Foreplay is the most important part of lovemaking, not the ability to rupture a woman’s vagina with the size of your penis. There is something else you need to understand, Ken: the women you’re currently dating are hoochies and hos, not so much because they’ve been sexually active with several partners, but because they discuss it with you. A real woman does not reveal her sexual experience to a man she’s just getting to know. She does not sit around discussing the penis size of the men she’s been with.
Your penis size isn’t the issue, it’s your choice of women. Look for a ‘quality’ woman, a woman with some class and style. One who’ll love and respect you for who you are, not how big your penis is. And black men should really be insulted by, and fed up with, this silliness.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Men do the same thing to women…big breasts!size 2! long hair! Large sizes are something that only some women have a preference for…that doesn’t make them sl**s (yes, pardon your french). What about the men who chooses not to even look at an overweight woman? Does that make him a dog? No, it’s all about preference.
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Name : keimo, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 19, City : milwaukee, State : WI, Country : United States, Occupation : STUDENT, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’m African American, and my boyfriend is Korean American, and size is NOT an issue. With other full-blooded Asian guys I’ve been with, size hasn’t been an issue. The Asian guys I’ve seen were normal size (6 inches or so when erect). Anyway, I say this because I can already sense that you feel race is an issue, and you may have succumbed to the horrible sexual stereotype placed on Asian guys and, for that matter, African-American men. It is so ignorant to me either way, and it surprises me how both groups put so much self-esteem on that body part.
Before you start looking at what’s in your pants as being the problem, perhaps you need to take a harder look at the women you are dating. I don’t mean any harm, but often women who must have so-called well-endowed men say so because they are more loose down there. With issues of penis size, this doesn’t seem to be discussed as often, but I would think it would be a factor. If a woman really loves you, size really won’t matter, anyway. Find a woman who cares about your heart instead of what’s in your pants, because all in all, things will work themselves out. You shouldn’t want a woman who so trashy that she will talk so explicitly about her previous sexual experiences to intimidate you.
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Name : Kristina26276, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Those girls are shallow and don’t deserve to be dating you. May I point out, however, that a lot of guys care more about breast size than personality? I don’t know why the girls you’re dating act the way they do, and I think you need to find some nicer ones. Trust me, I know how it feels when someone says you’re too small…
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Name : Nat20257, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 21, City : Kansas City, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Student,I once had an African (not African-American) man who was huge, and we couldn’t even have sex, it hurt me so badly. We tried two or three times and that was it. My opinion on women who are all about the superiority of hugeness either haven’t had it before, or had a ‘smaller’ man who didn’t know how to use it. My favorite lovers (not THAT many) have been medium to small and used multiple methods: fingers, mouth, good foreplay, etc.
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Name : Deb M., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,If you find a woman who just happens to be interested in tantric lovemaking, more than likely she will have practiced clenching techniques. The vaginal muscles can be tightened to accommodate a small penis, just as the muscles will expand for childbirth. The vagina has various muscle groups that can be tightened (or clenched) by the woman at will during sex, and with enough practice, she can be quite creative in her lovemaking. For a man, anal clenching is another technique that will enhance his pleasure if practiced regularly. Another consideration is that a woman’s most sensitive areas are located at the vulva and just beyond the entrance of the vagina, so size doesn’t really matter in respect to a woman’s physical makeup.
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Name : Lisa22789, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 43, City : Melbourne, State : FL, Country : United States,Those are the breaks, Tiger. While there are women of all different tastes, many women prefer well endowed men. Why they feel the necessity to publically lie about it is beyond me. I think that girls are taught by their mothers to say that size doesn’t matter. Anywho, most women like money, good looks, and big shlongs. Don’t let anyone feed you a bunch of crap concerning women liking you for you. The world isn’t fair.
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Name : Paul S., City : Southfield, State : MI, Country : United States,First of all, as a ‘sista’, as a woman, I want to let you know that bigger is NOT better. There are some men (not just ‘brothas’) that hung-lo but have no game, no real sense of movement, no good stroke in their back…basically….JUST PLAIN WACK! Second, not all black men are the ‘mandingo’ that the media and some others would make them out to be. Being a black woman whose had sex with mostly black men, I can tell you that only a few had big long ‘third legs’, and a couple of that few knew what to do with IT. And as lame or corny as this sounds, if the female cannot take you for YOU…then she’s not worth it.
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Name : SoulSista, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : Windy City, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : supervisor at CSC, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower class,
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