[Maria]

My boyfriend had some girls as penfriends, who told him theyd always stay just friends. It was OK, but when he told them he had found a girlfriend, they got mad and didnt write him anymore. Why can’t a girl’s male friend have a girlfriend? Should he stay single just because he has penfriends?

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Name : Maria, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 18, City : Paris, State : NA, Country : France, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class, 

[c.t.]

I think your boyfriend’s pen-friends were not quite so honest about their relationship with the guy in your life. I have two male friends, one of whom is married, the other who has been through diverse girlfriends. I think it is a question of drawing the boundary for yourself: I am happy to be their friend (and in the second case, the friend who lasts), and I respect their right to a private life that excludes me. I don’t think I could do that if there was the slightest insecurity about our standing toward each other. I have found the females in my male friends’ life to be somewhat protective initially – sassing out if I was a potential threat – but afterward they accepted me. Only one girlfriend had a really strong problem, but that was because she generally disapproved of cross-gender friendships, thinking them impossible (i.e. sex would always interfere).

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Name : c.t., Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Munich, State : NA, Country : Germany, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

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