[Marie]

My husband and I discovered recently that our 12 year old son had managed to access some pornographic internet sites. I was not surprised that he was curious – it’s only natural at that age. What surprised me was that there are ‘preteen porn’ sites out there. (Someone should go to prison for this.) My husband and I discussed how to handle the situation before talking to our son. Then my husband sat him down and explained that while there is nothing wrong with being curious or with sex, pornography is not meant for young people. That the acts depicted and described are not typical and therefore a very bad way to learn about sex, love and relationships. He went on to explain how sex and love were not the same thing, how sex should be incorporated into a loving relationship, and how pornography gives the wrong impression of how men and women interact in real life. He also made sure to let our son know that sex itself is not bad, nor is curiosity. And he let our son know that he could come to either one of us if he ever had questions or wanted to talk. Later on I approached my son, and told him that I wanted him to know he could talk to me about anything too – without going into all of the details his father did. I wanted to avoid embarrassing him, but I felt that it was important for him to know that we were both available. Then we set up AOL Guardian, their new parental notification system. When your child logs on, you receive an email report about his or her online activities. Much more effective than the old parental controls now that porn sites are finding ways around these.

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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, 

[Tom32369]

Yeah. You need to re-examine yourself and the way you perceive human sexuality. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with what your son is doing. You making him feel ashamed and embarassed over looking at the pictures is actually having an adverse effect, not a positive one. What exactly are you trying to protect him from anyway? His natural sexuality? Well, I hate to be the one to break this to you, but… KIDS ARE SEXUAL TOO. There is simply no logical reason to prohibit exploration and the viewing of playboy pictures. In fact, the only thing ‘dirty’ about all of this are the minds that see it as such. Fundamentally, there is nothing harmful about sexual exploration — regardless of age. It is society that skews the reality of sex with irrational fears and misguided protectionisms. I would suggest heading to logicalreality.com to find out more. Maybe you’ll learn something.

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Name : Tom32369, City : New Castle, State : MI, Country : United States, 

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