[Greg21562]

Girls: How do you differentiate between being interested in dating a guy and just being friendly? If a guy talks to you, do you think, 'Oh my God, I wonder if this guy secretly wants to date me?'

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[Kathy]

I do not think about guys picking me up whenever they say that to me. I just think he is probably a nice, curious guy who would like to know me better. I think of them as a potential friend, nothing more. I have to get to know him well enough first, and that will take time.

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[Terri]

Usually, my first thoughts at a guy's friendlines towards me are, does he want to have sex with me? It depends on the situation and how he looks at me. If his eyes travel south more than once, then I know that sex is on his mind and he'd take the opportunity if I allowed it. Sometimes, simple momentary politeness and friendliness is all it is. When a man wants a date with me, he comes right out and asks.

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[Sallina H.]

This is actually a very interesting topic that is discussed at length in the 'ladder theory.' It basically says that girls have two categories for the guys they know. The 'friends' category and the 'boyfriend material' category. And while it is possible for a member of one category to jump to the other, it rarely occurs and usualy doesn't work out. As for how girls decide the criteria for each category? That depends on each individual girl. Everyone's desires and standards are different.

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[Laura G.]

Quite obviously it depends on the way a man talks to me, meaning his tone, body language, etc. It's usually pretty easy to tell if a guy is interested because (while he thinks he's being very discreet) his eyes are running a marathon up and down my body. I think with most girls if a guy really is being discreet and his signals are indecipherable, than a girl only thinks 'OMG, etc.etc.' if she's hoping he does want to date her. If she isn't physically attracted and he doesn't seem attracted either, the thought probably won't occur to her (atleast not right away). My perception has been tainted however, because I have many male friends who have told me time and time again 'guys NEVER just want to be friends with a pretty girl. they always want to hook up'. So, a girl who's in the know might be suspicious from the get-go regardless of the situation.

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[Dee W]

I think, myself, I always try to be friendly, I don't assume a man is wanting to date me. ( I usually assume a man will try to get me in bed, however.) If you're just walking up to total strangers for no reason and striking up a conversation they may think you are hitting on them. But to share a comment on a class, event or in a work setting you are both attending would be seen as 'being friendly'. I am guessing you think too much, my daughter is like that, alway analyzing a situation instead of just enjoying it or exiting it if it is making her uncomfortable. Don't worry so much what others are thinking, just enjoy being with them, even just for friendly conversation.....it can lead to more later.

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[Jen T]

I have noticed most men who have wanted to ask me out seem to send out signals without realizing it. Now if I acknowledge these signals depends on if I would like to go out with the person or not. We may wonder from time to time if a certain guy wants to ask us out or not, but I do not beleive most men that talk to me are there for a date. I have a lot of male friends that are just that and nothing more. I have noticed if my friends and I are thinking about if a guy wants to date us or not, its usually for two reasons... its either someone we really would also like to date or it is someone we would rather not date at all and need to figure out how to tell them no while keeping the friendship.

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[mikki owens]

if a guys approaches out of the blue asking 'how i am doing?' with the 'joey' accent generally is a signal he wants to date me, but if he asked to borrow a book in class and ends the conversation no

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[Rina]

I think it depends on the guy's body language, and whether or not he's obviously flirting while talking to me. Of course, some more conceited members of the female sex will assume that E-V-E-R-Y guy who speaks to them or looks at them secretly wants to date them. (I've had at least two friends who displayed this obnoxious behavior, and guys seemed to find it equally disturbing.)

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[jummy24288]

i'm going to help you out as a fellow male: you will never get an answer to this question because there is no answer. if you don't have the minimal intuition required to make an actionable guess as to whether the girl you're talking to is interested, or the minimal courage it takes to ask her for a date, you are, ipso facto, not attractive to that girl, and every moment you spend pondering your chances from afar makes you exponentially less attractive to her. and, yes, there is a point at which your reticence becomes creepy enough that it's better not to ask.

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