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What are the consequences, if any, if a Jehovah’s Witness dates someone of another religion? I have broken up with a young man who was kicked out of the group for not following the rule to not have sex before marriage. He is now trying to get back in and do the right thing. He and I have had sex, so he was advised to discontinue dating me and cut off all communacations.
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Name : Denise C., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 22, City : Detroit, State : MI, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College,Not having pre-marital sex is not a ‘rule’ of Jehovah’s Witnesses; rather, Jehovah’s Witnesses belive in adhering to God’s loving commands in the Bible to ‘abstain from fornication,’ which is just a word that essentially means having sexual relations outside of the marital arrangement, or extramarital sex on the part of married persons (adultery). (1Thessalonians 4:3-8) I don’t know if your friend was baptized or not, but his being what you consider ‘kicked out’ would only take place of he weren’t repentant – or in other words, if he didn’t think what he did was wrong and had no intention of trying to do God’s will. No one is just thrown aside for having pre-marital sex; we’re all human and make mistakes. Nevertheless, by him trying to get back in, it would be likely that he was advised not to see you. This is because the Bible says to marry only in the Lord. (1Corinthians 7:39) I don’t know what your religious faith is, but if it is not your interest to abstain from sex before marriage, and he is trying to stay on the right track, then there would obviously be conflict. Of course, marrying only in the Lord is not just referring to sex, but to other religious matters, also. The advice for him not to see you is only out of concern for him and in an attempt to help him from repeating the mistake. If you two stayed together long enough, most likely you would become sexually active again. Consider, for the sake of example, a mother who finds out her child has started experimenting with cigarettes with some of his friends. If she confronted him and helped him see the danger in this, and he agreed and was willing to keep away from doing it again, don’t you think she would also tell him not to hang around those friends of his who are smokers, as he would probably try it again and may even wind up a smoker himself? The same principle applies to your situation with your friend. It’s nothing against you personally; I’m sure you’re a nice person, but this loving advice was out of concern for him and in an attempt to aid him in continuing his spritual goals.
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Name : Holly21326, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jehovahs Witness, Age : 28, City : Annapolis, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : transcription, Education level : 2 Years of College,The Bible says at 2nd Corinthians 6:14 that we are not to be ‘unevenly yoked with unbelievers’ and at John 17:16 that we are to be ‘no part of the world.’ We all have free will and can do what we choose, but to go against God’s word has consequences. What happened to your ex was based on Scriptural principles. Jehovah’s Witnesses try to follow moral guidelines laid out in the Bible, and therefore have high moral standards. The Bible says in many places, including 1st Cor. 6:9, 10, 13, and 18, that we are to have no part in fornication. The Bible says that sex is for marriage only. To fornicate, or to have sex outside the marriage bond, is a clear violation of God’s Law. Any version of the Bible you read will tell you that. We are to be a spiritually, morally, physically, and mentally clean people who try to follow in the footsteps and the pattern Jesus Christ (God’s Son) left for us. People are disfellowshipped because of willfully violating Scriptural principles without repentance. The Bible says at 1st Cor. 5:13 that if there is one who is PRACTICING wickedness, they should be removed. Removing, or disfellowshipping, an unrepentant person from the congregation is not done out of spite, but as a protection to the rest of the congregation, and is a measure of Scriptural discipline. Our relationship with God is of major importance, and once we decide to commit ourselves do doing things ‘by the Book,’ we have to play by the rules; that is, God’s rules. The disfellowshipped person can still attend meetings so that they are not denied spiritual food, but he or she is asked to refrain from commenting during the meeting and from socializing in the congregation until that person has gone back to the Elders (dedicated, volunteer unpaid men who devote their time to assisting the congregation in whatever way they can) and shown that he or she is repentant and really wants to make sincere efforts to please Jehovah God. Then they are reinstated and welcomed back to the congregation.
We do date, we do have fun. But true Witnesses try to keep in mind the high moral standards of the Bible and don’t want to behave in a way that would go against Bible standards and displease Jehovah.
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Name : Chandra32228, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jehovahs Witness, Age : 23, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Office Manager, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Hello people~ My name is Stacey. I am 17 years old and I live in Memphis, Tennessee. I am writing today b/c I have alot of questions and concerns with Jehovah’s Witnesses and marriage outside of their religion. I am engaged to a Jehovah’s Witness. We have been together for 7 months, and we just got engaged this past weekend. I understand that the Witnesses have a strong belief in waiting until marriage for sex, and he and I are BOTH still virgins. We have done sexual things, but I plan on keeping my virginity *hopefully* until marriage. He and I have had many discussions on how his parents would react when they find out we are to be married. You see, they don’t even know we’re together. We broke up for a week last year, and I was ‘trying to get him in trouble’ so I called their house and I had a long talk with his mother. She told me that he wasn’t supposed to date outside his religion and that he shouldn’t be dating yet b/c he is so young (he’s my age..). I don’t understand any of this. From my perspective, God put us all on this earth to be together, why segregate each other? It seems a form of racism! I am not trying to down the Witnesses in any way, I have respect for them b/c of my boyfriend’s faith..but why should he be restricted to another Witness? If he wants to be with someone of another religion, shouldn’t he be able to w/o the fear of being disowned? His mother is a die-hard Witness, but she also loves her grandkids. Sometimes I feel I am to blame b/c he will be the *ONLY* sibling who hasn’t married in his religion. If his mom treats me unfairly and unjustly, and makes me feel as though I am lesser of a person than her just b/c of my beliefs, she will not see her grandchildren. Thats about it…I think I’ve proved myself. One more thing-do they believe in being saved, and are they considered of the Christian faith? Thanks for your time, email me back at psychokitten68@yahoo.com . God bless!
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Name : Stacey McGovern, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : bi-curious, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : non-denominational (aka..'Jesus Person'), Age : 17, City : Memphis, Tennessee, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,well sory he hard to be told to discontinue after he hard sex with u i am a jehovahs witness and that is how we do mail me to robbotbassy16@yahoo.com
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Name : frank19631, City : lagos, State : VT, Country : nigeria,
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