[R-J30339]

Is ‘coming out’ still a frightening action for homosexuals? It seems that it wouldn’t be, with so many people publicly out.
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[Charles B.]

Teenagers will lock themselves in their rooms if they have a pimple. They will drill holes into tender flesh just to fit in. They will alienate their family to avoid being made fun of by their friends. And those are the straight ones. When sexuality rears its horny head and a teenager starts to realize he or she is different from other people, the first impulse is to hide. It doesn’t matter that other people on TV are gay – those people are not your friends. It doesn’t matter if there are other gay people in your school – those people just help take the heat off you. Fit in, fit in, fit in is the drumbeat that drives. Imagine that you rode a rocket ship to another planet where everyone looks and acts exactly like earthlings do. You can easily live in that society because everything works just the way you expect it to. But every time you meet someone new, you have to explain (or not) that you are not from that planet. Everyone assumes you are, and sometimes it’s easier to let them believe that you are. Coming out is a lifelong process of explaining to everyone you meet that you do not have a wife at home cooking your dinner, don’t appreciate the ass on that woman and like watching football not because you care who wins but because you like to see guys touching and groping and pawing each other. All right, maybe that last one is just me. Out people make it easier for other gay people to be gay. The more exposure everyone has to homosexuality, the more ‘normal’ it will be and the easier it will become to invite your ‘husband’ to your best friend’s wedding, or your best friend to your own. But being gay and coming out are two different things, and until we teach our children that being straight or gay is as important as being left-handed or right-handed, homosexuality will still carry the weight of shame and remorse, and coming out will be as difficult for tomorrow’s child as it was for yesterday’s.

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