[Deebie-S]

I often go out with friends and notice that guys talk to them and not me. I am not conceited, but I know I am not ugly or unattractive. I see guys look at me, but they don’t approach me. What is the problem? Am I intimidating? What do people think makes a girl unapproachable to a guy if she’s pretty and attractive?

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Name : Deebie-S, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Atlanta, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Michael20662]

You really didn’t discribe yourself, maybe your friends just look better or come off more appealling than you. Or maybe you should make the first move, because sometimes when a guy see a girl thats too fine they may think your already taken.

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Name : Michael20662, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, 

[NThomas]

Most of the time it’s not the guys at all, it’s the type of ‘unavailable’ vibes that you give off. Don’t take that as a weakness take it as strength. It’s just a ‘weeding out’ process!

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Name : NThomas, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[David]

What I find is the most common reason for guys to hold back on talking to a pretty girl is the old ‘She’s so pretty, she’s GOT to have a boyfriend’ line. I’ve often joked myself about how a lot of pretty girls are born taken. What’s the point in talking to someone you’re interested in if there’s no chance you’d get anywhere? Another reason would be the fear of saying something stupid and having the girl laugh in his face. After finally building up the confidence, no guy wants to have it all be lost by saying the wrong thing.

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Name : David, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 26, City : Slidell, State : LA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower class, 

[Gregory-H21584]

Sometimes girls look mean, cold or hostile, whether they actually are or not. Also, a girl who doesn’t smile or looks like she doesn’t want to be approached is unlikely to be approached.

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Name : Gregory-H21584, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 22, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : law student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

[M.K.]

I don’t know about the guys you meet, but I have been, on occasion, too shy to talk to a girl. This problem gets much worse if she’s really attractive. Why not make the first move ? It can’t be any harder for you than for him !

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Name : M.K., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 31, City : Sydney, State : NA, Country : Australia, Education level : Technical School, 

[Mark Buchanan]

You may have a look on your face that says…’Don’t even try it’.

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[Dan31640]

The average guy is generally intimidated by the ‘beauty queen’ because of experience. When he tried to ask one out, he got scornfully rejected and saw her prancing around 3 days later with some jock. When he tried to just be friends, she either thought him beneath her or automatically assumed he was trying to mack on her. Certainly, not all beauty queens are snobs. The reactions you are seeing are more due to conditioning that we’ve received.

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Name : Dan31640, Gender : M, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Pentecostal, Age : 22, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 

[Lily22930]

I had the same problem when I was your age, and I think it’s probably a combination of your anxiety and theirs. Guys your age are generally less sure of themselves than older men and are therefore more likely to talk to girls they think are ‘popular’ or do not appear threatening. If you are nervous, or appear a bit too keen to be approached, it might put them off. When I was your age, I had a friend who always ‘pulled’ men when I didn’t, and she always told me it was easy to attract men. I now know it is! You have to come across as confident and secure in yourself, completely independent and unneedy. This makes them feel secure and comfortable talking to you – the same is true of anyone if you think about it. The quickest way to get someone talking to you, however, is just to speak to them first – but do it casually. Say hello or something slightly flirty, like ‘I like your shirt’ and let them respond. If he doesn’t respond straightaway, go on straight back to talking with your friends … and let him pursue you.

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Name : Lily22930, Gender : F, Age : 32, City : London, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, 

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