[Scared]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple months, and recently we have engaged in oral sex. I love giving him oral sex; we both get so turned on. My problem is that I am very uncomfortable when it comes to him doing this to me. I keep thinking, "Why would a guy want to do that? Getting so close to my vagina ... ugh!" The other day I took a mirror and examined myself, and I was disgusted by what my vagina looked like. I saw wrinkly lips, and my vagina was really red inside. Is that how it's supposed to look? How can that be a turn-on for a guy? And what about the smell? Do they really enjoy giving oral sex to a woman? I love my boyfriend a lot, and I want him to do it, but I'm so afraid I'll turn him off - that he'll take one look and get so disgusted (I was, at least). And how can I overcome my insecurities?

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[CHAZM]

You have got to be joking. I don’t even know you, but I know you have a wonderful sexual organ ... how can you not (unless, of course you need to wash)? After all, you are a woman. The vagina has the most desirable smell in the world. Men fight, die and do the most stupid, fearless, noble and underhanded things for the taste and smell of vaginas. It is the single thing man is wired to desire. This is for the perpetuation of the species, and we couldn’t help ourselves if we wanted to. Most sexually mature straight men love the taste and sight of a vagina. Everything about your vagina is beautiful, and if you happen to find the rare guy who doesn't think so, drop him -he has some serious problems.

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[Steve27851]

I'm with CHAZM: I'm just hard-wired that way. Part of it may be that it is always interesting to look at something you don't have, but mainly, it is not explainable - or it is just biological. However, the evidence is all around. Just pick up a Hustler magazine, where women's privates are opened to hideous extremes in poses that, were it not a vagina, would be limited to surgery manuals. Yet it sells in the millions.

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[Jessica30638]

A man can sense your insecurities about your body, if you are not comfortable with your body how can he be. You are on the right track examining your body, keep doing it. The more you know about your body the more you will know about what pleases you. Im sure your vagina doesnt look any worse than most woman out there. Men love your vagina and you should too!!!!

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[Kerry]

As a gay woman, I love the taste, smell, texture, feel ... everything about them. On the other hand, I dislike the male organs. Not my ball of wax, thank you. So even if you don't find yourself appealing, rest assured there are those who do. The vagina is the defining bit, sexually, of being a woman. As far as getting over your hang-ups about it, just relax. You don't need to understand the attaction to recognize it's there. I don't understand how people can eat certain things, but it doesn't change the fact that they enjoy them.

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[Nick20024]

Just to be clear, it is your vulva you seem to be loathing, not your vagina. But regardless, both of these are intense turn-ons. It is the reciprocal to your pleasing your boyfriend - and in my experience is more evenly pleasurable to both people involved. Between my wife and I, it's a tough call on who get more pleasure from it. A woman's body has far more interesting detail, and many more variable and exciting responses. It's such a treasure. I believe a great sexual relationship is not just about each person giving the other attention, but both people exploring and enjoying both bodies. It is not just the giving and receiving of pleasure. It is the sharing of pleasure. More than just "allowing" your boyfriend to perform on you, you should do everything you can to participate. In terms of sexual detail, you are holding 90 percent of the fun. And when you get involved, there's 200 percent more fun to be had.

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[Caroline J.]

I think a big part of the problem is that women rarely get to see real vaginas, and many of us don't know what they are supposed to look like. I suggest you try to get some medical pictures of womens' vulvas/vaginas, as opposed to porn, which shows an airbrushed and unreal version of female genitals. Also, read The Vagina Monologues.

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[genna]

i wholeheartedly agree with the previous poster (caroline).we see female sexual organs in porn and we think that is how we are 'supposed' to look. the thing is that most sources of porn will only show one type of vulva. the women all have flat outer labia, short inner labia and vaginas that do not show unless the outer lips are spread. that is not what all women look like and men know that. they love our parts. they appreciate our differences. to get a more reasonable idea of what real women look like in the nude and what men really think about them, check out the livejournal.com community called nakedparts.

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[Elza]

I only wanted to write here and simply thank you for those words. Even though I´ve never had sex in my life, what you said was very beautiful, and it really touched me. I don´t know you, but in my opinion any woman should be lucky to have a man like you!

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[Danf27206]

it is a TOTAL turn-on for me. . all the changes it goes through. . .and it is very beautiful. . .most women's are. . .I could go on and on about this, my favorite activity but suffice it to say you have something beautiful that you do not appreciate yet. . you will, I hope

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[Chaz]

Jemma, Like girls and their vaginas, guys usually don't think their penises are anything special. I always thought my dick was somewhere between unsightly and downright ugly. But my wife thinks it's 'cute' when soft and 'beautiful' when hard. Vaginas do have a natural smell ... one that 've always liked very much as long my partner hadn't been backpacking for a week with no shower! The taste is wonderful, too, with the same caveat. Face it ... guys like pussy ... and a guy who loves you is going to think your pussy is the most beautiful in the world! Chaz

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[Dee25797]

One thing the responses forgot to mention.....when you get aroused, your vaginal area swells with blood. When your bf sees it, it's not wrinkly but smooth and swollen, indicating you're turned on. Which will make him even more excited. Also, the lubrication produced by this really has no offensive odor (unless there is a medical or hygiene problem). My suggestion to you is to explore mastubating with a mirror, and see the changes that take place before, during, and after orgasm. THEN you'll see the beauty of what he sees.

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