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I don’t think we’ll ever know why a person is gay. Once they thought there was a gene, then that was denounced. They figured how could 2 str8 people give birth to a gay, where did that gene come from? Then there are identical twins. If they both come from the same egg, how could one be str8 and the other gay? Sometimes I just think it’s a choice made by people who are more open to it, unlike the rest of us. They try it with men, try it with women, and whichever one they liked better is the one they stick with. The rest of us just automatically go towards the opposite sex. We obviously know what sexual parts we have, so we’re interested in the opposite of what we have and interested in the sexual body parts that we don’t have which is the opposite sex.
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Name : Craig, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 34, City : Concord, State : NH, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College,You say you ‘believe’ being gay is an ‘active decision’ because you’re an ‘orthodox Christian’. Well, I’m sorry to break the news, but your belief is simply wrong. You say you are straight. Was that an active decision? Was there a time when you liked men and then ‘decided’ to like women? I’m sure the answer is ‘no’. You liked girls and women ever since puberty. Why on earth would you think it’s any different for gay people? Folks with attitudes like yours don’t even appear to have thought much about their own lives, let alone the lives of others. As for those studies, the great and growing weight of scientific evidence is that sexual orientation is in-born, not the product of upbringing. Their is no reputable evidence on the other side. Being Christian is just no excuse for checking your brain at the door. And by the way, if your conception of your faith is that it sets up a conflict with love, I respectfully suggest you reconsider your religious dogma. I can’t begin to imagine how awful it must be to go through life with a ‘faith’ that unspeakably ugly.
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Name : Michael, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 56, City : Los Altos, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Attorney, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Best way to explain it is that there’s no choice in the matter. I think it wouldn’t make much sense if it was simply a simple choice. This may be a cliche reply but: ‘Yes, I chose to be in one of the most religiously hated and culturally unacceptable groups in the world.’
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Name : Zac-C19524, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, City : Revelstoke, State : NA, Country : Canada,It is a choice because say (hypothetically) I was attracted to girls, I would CHOOSE whether or not to date the sex im most attracted to, or to date the opposite. People that say they are born like that are only foolings themselves and making an excuse. I have nothing against gays, but they are definetly not born that way. I dont think a 1 year old is capable of having sexual intentions.
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Name : Tiffany, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Methodist, Age : 20, City : Flint, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : Parts Analyst, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,It is a way that people are born, not a lifestyle that someone chooses. I speak from experience as a gay man: I do not choose to be gay. I have tried to be straight, and I have pretended to be straight, and it simply does not work. My sexual orientation is a part of me that nothing can — or will — ever change. The only choice in the matter (for gay/lesbian/bisexual people) is whether or not to hide one’s sexual orientation.
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Name : Brendan M., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 19, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,And I think most gay people would also disagree with your assessment. From the first point that I was attracted to anybody, I was attracted to girls and boys. There was no concious decision there at all. In fact, there were times in my teen years where (because of teasing from peers and because of people convincing me that homosexuality was evil) I would have LOVED to just wake up and decide to not be attracted to women. But it doesn’t work that way, any more than you could wake up one day and decide to not be attracted to men. Some things are choices. The act of having sex is a choice. The decision to agree to a date with someone is a choice. You choose friends, pasttimes, what volunteer groups you belong to…but who you are attracted to is not a choice, it just happens. I have no idea whether it’s caused by nature or nurture…most likely, it’s a combination of both…but CHOICE is not really a factor.
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Name : Maggie B., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 20s, City : Birmingham, State : AL, Country : United States, Occupation : journalist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Both as a bisexual and as a medical scientist I believe that this question is too complicated to deal with as either/or. People want to think it is all nature or all environment to support a political stance and it just doesn’t work that way. However, to say that there is an environmental or developmental component is not to say that people’s sexual orientation can or should be changed. Many people have tried to do this and it doesn’t work, often succeeding only in breaking hearts and marriages. There is constant interplay between our genes and our environments so to make a distinction is often a false choice. Speaking as a Christian, I believe that if you are gay or bisexual you need to work out what you believe and follow your conscience while being honest with yourself and others.
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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