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To girls/women who wear short skirts or revealing dresses: Why do you do this? To attract men’s interest? As a natural way to feel good about yourself? Because you enjoy arousing men? Because you believe it’s your duty to please men? Also, if a man pretends not to notice, are you hurt?
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Name : Peter, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, City : KL, State : NA, Country : Malaysia,Maybe it’s just hot. Sometimes I wear a short skirt. Sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I do this with the idea of attracting male attention – maybe I’m going to a party, or on a date, or out with friends. Sometimes I do it just for comfort. You seem to have an implicit idea that a woman’s body is nothing more and nothing less than a sexual object, and that to wear a short skirt is an automatic sexual invitation, while covering up is the only way to avoid having men see one that way. Do you think if a man wears tight pants it’s because he believes it’s his duty to please women?
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Name : Colleen, Gender : F, Age : 21, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States,I’ve been wearing skirts and tank tops lately because they are cooler and much more comfortable than heavy jeans and sleeved shirts. (It’s hot here in south Texas.) I’ve noticed that I tend to feel better about myself when I look more feminine, and yes, sometimes I enjoy getting looks from men (not arousing them, just being noticed). At other times I’d rather not be noticed at all and am happy to wear plain, unrevealing clothing. There is no great ulterior motive to wearing these clothes; it just feels better. When a man ‘pretends’ not to notice (or doesn’t notice, period), it seems to be a gesture of respect. If he does, it’s kind of flattering and funny (as long as he’s not being disgustingly overt).
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Name : SR28505, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Humanist, Age : 22, City : Austin, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,You may as well ask ‘Why do men wear shorts and singlets – or even no shirt at all?’ I wear short skirts because I live in a very warm place and it is too hot to wear much else {although I try to wear long-sleeved shirts to prevent sunburn}. Trust me, there are very few women around who wear revealing stuff just for guys. We aren’t here just for your visual pleasure, you know.
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Name : Netta, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 18, City : Armidale, State : NA, Country : Australia, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,I think Philip is asking about something more than a skirt above the knees or a tank top. Hopefully he means skirts that come right below women’s butt cheeks and shirts that allow someone to guess a woman’s bra size without much difficulty. I also think he’s asking why some women put their bodies out there as objects. As I walk down a street and see the lack of length in skirts, the tightness of tops and bottoms, and the revealing necklines, I can’t help but think the same questions that he’s asking, and I’m a woman.
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Name : Stacey, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jehovahs Witness, Age : 28, City : Boston, State : MA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I wear revealing clothes because I’m young and have a nice figure. I want to enjoy being this way. Age will take my nice figure and looks away eventually. If you got, it flaunt it, right? I do it also because I like to get some attention. I like it when guys look at me in a non-threatening, non-obtrusive manner. I like to know that men find me attractive. I also feel good about dressing myself up. I do it for me. If a man gets aroused, then that’s on him. I feel good about myself all the time, whether or not I’m wearing revealing clothes. I just have the confidence in myself to dare to be bare.
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Name : Dorothy, Gender : F, City : Porterville, State : CA, Country : United States,If I have on revealing clothes, it is only because **I** like the way I look in them, not because I think a man likes the way I look in them. I wear red because I love red (I also drive a red car and carry a red handbag). I occasionally wear short skirts or dresses because I like them and I think they are becoming, and I like to feel good about how I look. When I get dressed in the morning, or at night to go out, I put on what I like and what I feel good in. That is all there is to it. It is my duty to please only myself and feel good about myself, not to arouse anyone or make anyone notice me. People DO notice me, but it’s because I like myself and feel confident and happy about the way I look, not because my skirt is short. What someone else will think about me does not have anything to do with what I wear. Furthermore, if a man has to PRETEND not to notice me, then I am really not interested in his opinion, and I don’t even think about him. Certainly, I am not hurt by his actions. If he likes the way I look or the way I carry myself and says something in a positive and respectful manner, great. If he has to pretend **anything,** then he can just stay quiet and let me go on my merry way.
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Name : Jennifer30899, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Graduate student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,This question is particularly vexing to me, as I’ve had to explain this to all variety of ogling male. I’m dressed this way to impress the man I’m out with. Dressing provocatively on a date isn’t an invitation to every man in the place. I can’t count the number of times I’ve had strangers hit on me while my boyrfriend was in the bathroom. Some of us just want to look good to one man. To other men, it’s fine to look, but don’t assume I’m open for business just because you can see my knees.
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Name : Emma25406, Gender : F, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States,I believe that everyone is entitled to wear what they want (within reason, of course). I wear revealing clothes all the time – short skirts, long, fitted skirts/dresses, tank tops, half tops, etc. But I also wear suits and loose-fitting clothes at times. I just feel that I have a nice shape, and sometimes I like to show it. Not for the arousal of men, but for the satisfaction I get within myself when I know I’m wearing it well. Of course I get attention from men when I wear these things, but I also get just as much attention when I’m fully covered. And no, I am not hurt when a man doesn’t notice me, because I’m confident enough to know that if he notices me or not, this does not define how good I feel about myself. As long as a woman is comfortable and feels good about herself, I say show it!
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Name : Monique R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 23, City : Eastpointe, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 2 Years of College,Thanks for the many answers. I hope many men would ask openly instead of guessing. If a girl dresses to get attention, then when a man gives her the attention, will she be disappointed? It is hard not to get excited and pay attention when a girl shows she enjoys being seen, being touched… The sexy way she dresses does communicate that. What would be the right way to respond? Just pretend I am not enjoying it or am not aroused? If a girl is confident, why does she need use a sexy dress?
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Name : Philip, Gender : M, City : Kuala Lumpur, State : NA, Country : Malaysia,Hi. I live in a conservative family that will not stand any revealing. Everything has to be ‘decent’. That’s how I feel too many times. Lately, I am beginning to feel tired of all this. Why should I or so many people be like this when so many just flaunt their skin in pubs, discos and upmarket places. Why should I, as a middle class person, not do so? As a matter of fact, I have huge breasts that attract men even when I am fully clothed. Why should I not flaunt them? I would like people to look at me. Admire me. Gaze at me longingly. Maybe even ….. 😉 when they see my breasts. I want that. What the heck! I WANT TO REBEL! Emanita
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Name : Emanita, City : Hyderabad, State : CO, Country : India,
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