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I recently became friends with a guy who I heard through the grapevine is gay, and we are what I consider very close friends. More times than not we flirt. I found a profile he had online that stated he was gay, yet he has never told me he was, and he almost tries to come off as though he is straight. To gay men: have you ever had an attraction to a female, and have you ever hid your sexuality from someone in this way? If yes, why?
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Name : Sarah, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 20, City : Barnesville, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Entertainment, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Sexuality is not classified as it once was. One isn’t purely ‘straight’ or ‘gay’ – there are many variances. Sexuality is now rated on a continuum. That is, one can be 25 percent gay and 75 percent straight, or some other variant. And no one else can tell you what YOU are. For example, I consider myself straight, but I once fell in love with a girl. Does that make me gay? Or bisexual? I’m the only one who can say, because it’s my body, mind, soul and decisions. And sometimes it gets confusing. He may be attracted to you in ways other than sexual: There are many levels of love and friendship. Perhaps he has not told you because he is afraid of what you would say. Or perhaps he doesn’t quite know himself.
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Name : Jamie20914, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 20, City : Tacoma, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student,Sounds like he’s in the ‘bi now, gay later’ phase… In late teens / early twenties many gay men will come out to selected people. I lied blatantly to some friends that asked me simply because I feared the awkward change it would bring to the friendship. Hopefully time will make him more honest and comfortable about his identity. It was also at that time that I used to have sexual experiences with women, some of which were enjoyable, to a degree. But there is no comparison to what’s like with guys and so I no longer have such experiences with women. When I fully decided to come out, I told everyone and it quickly became a non-issue. Or so I thought… A year later, a friend that I’d lost contact with returned from overseas… and strangely I avoided telling him for months. So even when you’re think you’re completely over the issue, there can still be residual difficulties about it.
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Name : Nicholas, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Cape Town, State : NA, Country : South Africa, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It seems like a lot of women feel that their identity is ‘fluid’ and they can ‘change’ from gay to bi to straight and back. However, most men do not feel that their identity is fluid, and feel that they are gay, bi, or straight for life. It’s possible that this is a real difference between gay/bi men and gay/bi women.
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Name : Johnny29352, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 24, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,Well, I suppose I’ll give you an answer. It sounds like your friend just might not be all the way out yet. Coming out is a hard thing to do, and you as his friend shouldn’t feel at all slighted that he hasn’t told you. Sometimes it’s easier to just hit on girls and try to live what many consider a normal life, even if it may be anything but normal for the individual concerned. I have never had a sexual attraction to a female, and I have hid my sexuality in much the same way as your friend has appeared to. I don’t think stories like this are at all uncommon. Also, if you confront your friend about seeing this online profile, don’t be surprised or feel bad if he totally denies it. Maybe he’s not ready to tell you, maybe he’s not ready to tell anyone.
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Name : Mike-Evans, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Manhattan, State : KS, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,the answer is as complicated as a persons sexuality I will give you a some what simplified answer in genral terms( becouse I don’t know the people involved ) answer 1 he is only semi-out of the closet only some of his family or friends know that he is gay answer 2 he is exploring his sexuality he is curious and may end up saying guy just don’t do it for me answer 3 he belives that it will change the dynamics of your friendship and make either him or you uncomfortable the best thing for you to do as a friend is be supportive of him and talk freely with your friend and be patient he will tell you when he is ready to or not remember everyone has secrets as to the ? have I had an attraction to a female yes women are beautiful they are sensual of course I have hidden my sexuality from people mostly by letting people assume what they want to belive as to why becouse it is still not easy being gay
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Name : Jeremy27832, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Human, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 30, City : huntington, State : WV, Country : United States, Occupation : dishwasher, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower class,
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