[D-K]

As a gay white male in a relationship with a black male, I am really curious to ask this but am somewhat afraid to: Do black men in relationships with white men or women ever feel they are being sexually stereotyped as aggressive/dominant or ‘tops’? It seems to me that in North American culture, black men carry around a lot of sexual baggage about being sexually aggressive. It must be really frustrating for black men who are more inclined toward passivity (particularly for gay black men). Is this so?
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Name : D-K, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 30, City : Toronto, Ontario, State : NA, Country : Canada, 

[white bottom]

my first time was with a man of color, I love it and careed for him. want the same once again. Hope there is one out in northwest burbs for me!

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Name : white bottom, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 57, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class, 

[HSmith]

The answer to your question is ‘yes’. I am a hetro black male who has datedwhite woman in past. I found that they tend to want the image that most people see of black men. I had one who liked me to look thuggish(baggy pants, bad english ect)I grew up as middle class as anyone else and have not been to prison and I pay my child support. It can get to you after awhile and it caused me to not want to date outside of my race because of how much it seem to come up. I cant tell you how many times I’ve heard’black guys dont do -blank- do they?’ I thought how stupid was that and how long have you been walking around with those stupid beliefs about black people! The sex thing is the biggest problem you face. With the current ‘gangster’ thing around you get many people who want to be around you because you are black ie ‘cool’.When they find out that your mom is just like thiers and you didnt grow up in the projects its like they tend to feel let down. I enjoy sex just like the next guy and I dont have super natural powers when it comes to sex. I think many people not just whites need to turn off the tv and notice most blacks go to work , pay bills.

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Name : HSmith, City : Lansing, State : MI, Country : United States, 

[Jay]

As a gay black man I really am sick of the sterotyping. White guys always assume your some kind of brutal top when in reality I was vers. It has gotten so bad that I now refuse to top under any circumstances either I get to bottom or nothing goes on.

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Name : Jay, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 29, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Transportation, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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