[Mattizzle]

When my ex and i would sleep together, we were very adventurous in bed. The only problem was after a bit, she would start getting upset because I wouldn't orgasm with her, usually afterward. She felt as though I wasn't as attracted to her as I used to be. Is this stupid talk or what?

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[Van-Boo]

Well first of all, were you still attracted to her? If not, you just answered your own question. If you were attracted to her, maybe you were getting bored with your adventurous sack time and needed to find something even more daring and adventurous to re-spark your wild side. Hope this helped you out.

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[Ange19464]

Thats not her being stupid. If you weren't prepared to properly deal with her concerns, then the problem is you being incredibly insensitive.

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[Ann L. Lowenstein]

Your ex has watched too many softcore porns on cable. Both of you 'arriving' together is nice, to be sure, but rarely happens in real life. It has precisely not one thing to do with how attracted you are to her, it has to do with how much physical and mental stimulation you require to climax, and evidently, you needed a little more than she did. You'll go on to have a nice relationship with someone whose expectations are realistic, and she'll spend the rest of her life resentful and assuming she's being slighted. No big loss for you, I'd say.

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[Maria]

No, I don't think her response is 'stupid talk.' When you become adventurous in bed, you have to take into account the risk of variances in satisfaction for both partners. I know, that whenever my boyfriend and I experiment in bed, I too, can't help but a little upset when he can't orgasm with me, especially if it is a while afterward. It makes you feel like 'well, it's not him, obviously, so it must be me. I must not feel good enough or I must not be as attractive enough for him right now.' Instead of dismissing her feelings or becoming frustrated with them, maybe, in the future, you should encourage or reassure her. No one wants to feel inadequate in bed, especially when they're trying to be adventurous and fun.

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[Taz]

Nice problem to have. Most women complain guys finish too soon for them. Seeing as she's your ex, something had to happen to end the feelings you two had for each other. If you were just as attracted to her as you were in the beginning, then I think she was getting upset over nothing. But, if it was taking you longer each time you had sex, then she may be on to something. Maybe other problems in the relationship was taking it's toll in bed, causing you to take longer to finish. But seeing as she's now your 'ex', you no longer have to worry about that. Hope your current/next relationship works out better!

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[Rochelle28666]

This is really a matter between the two of you and not related to diversity.

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[Britt28725]

yeah, thats dumb.

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[MarkA]

Having simultaneous orgasm isn't all that it's cracked up to be. It doesn't mean you're not in love or the sex isn't good. Too many people put too much emphasis on cumming together. This added pressure can sometimes ruin the act. Tell her to relax. Just be glad she can cum at all.

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