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I am going to start work in an office next week. Most of the women in the office are extremely overweight and wear dresses that are very old-fashioned and are these neon colors. I’m by no means a model, but I have a nice figure and like to look my best and feel good about how I look. How do I dress businesslike and feel good without feeling like I’m upstaging these other women? I don’t want to be labeled ‘the skinny girl in the office,’ but I don’t want to hide behind a tent dress just to fit in.
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Name : Missy20511, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Somewhere, State : PA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Why not just wear what is businesslike and appropriate and looks good on you. Let the overweight women do their thing. If they’re catty at all, you’re going to be the ‘skinny girl’ to them no matter how you dress. If you wear a big muumuu to look like them, they might think you’re making fun of them. Would you lisp when speaking to someone who lisps just so they wouldn’t think of you as the ‘person who doesn’t lisp’?
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Name : Stephanie-V27777, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : na, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Website developer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I think you should wear what makes you feel comfortable while maintaining a professional office look. If the other women in your offfice are upset, that is something they will have to work out.
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Name : Jon27101, Gender : M, City : Windsor, Ontario, State : NA, Country : Canada,I think you either A) have an insecurity about your looks, possibly because you were teased about them in the past, or B) feel your looks are your only asset, so you are preoccupied with them. Honestly, most women, whether supermodels or not, don’t automatically hate another women because she is ‘prettier’ than they are. I admit that some people do, but usually this is because they have their own issues. People who have a life, which includes most people, have more important things to worry about, and if the new pretty girl in the office has a nice personality, they will eat with her at lunch. So dress as you wish.
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Name : Joan30565, Gender : F, Age : 36, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States,Wear what you want! Maybe you’ll provide a source of inspiration to the overweight women in the office to improve their appearances.
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Name : Nicole, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black and white, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : Portsmouth, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : Data Analyst, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I wouldnt sweat it. Dress how you want to and enjoy how you look. I work in an office building and all the women here are rather ‘portly’ too. Maybe you should come and work over here! I’m sure the bosses would like to get some fresh meat in here! Good luck.
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Name : Brian, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 23, City : Novi, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : Designer, Education level : 4 Years of College,When I started out, I was told by a woman I highly regarded, ‘Dress for the position to which you aspire.’ Although I made probably a fifth what she made, I understood her logic. I bought high-quality items and didn’t worry about quantity. You should dress as appropriate to your position in the company, your body type and your age. You didn’t indicate whether your office is conservative or trendy, so judge your selections based on that knowledge. You might want to speak with your immediate supervisor regarding dress codes or expectations. Don’t worry about the way others dress. If your are neat and businesslike, you will stand out not as the skinny girl but as the professional-appearing employee.
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Name : Kathy26690, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 49, City : Springfield, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Medical, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Fat women can dress very attractively if they want to. Just as many thin women have a bad sense of fashion as fat women. It depends on the women. Maybe the clothes the fat women are wearing in your office are comfortable and attractive to them . Perhaps you don’t like their fashion sense, but that shouldn’t matter. Wear what you want and don’t worry about what they wear. Why would you assume they CARE how you dress?
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Name : A.R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Humanist, Age : 30, City : Astoria, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Actor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,
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