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Is it true that gay people can tell when someone else is gay?
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Name : Liz, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 32, City : Cincinnati, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : Office Manager, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Not really. Some people give off signals, either by wearing certain clothes or haircuts, but it’s all still guesswork. Many ‘straight-looking, straight-acting’ people are gay but just don’t dress or act like it. If you’re interested in finding out whether someone identifies as gay, you might bring up ‘gay-ness’ in general to get a feel for their attitudes. Mention a movie or the local Pride march. Your bringing it up may help someone feel comfortable coming out to you.
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Name : Megan-L, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Boston, State : MA, Country : United States,Anybody who has been around people who are gay and has been paying attention can tell with relative accuracy whether or not someone is gay. Anybody can learn to pick up on subtle clues about somebody’s orientation.
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Name : Jacqueline-C20985, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 25, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,There is some truth to the ‘gaydar’ myth. Generally speaking, though, this ‘gift’ simply comes from associating with gay people on a regular basis. Gay people have their own culture, complete with mannerisms, styles, slang, etc. that others might not pick up on. Often, I can pick up on one of these mannerisms and know right away that the person is either gay or gay-friendly; but just as often, it’s just wishful thinking (sigh). The easiest way to tell someone’s sexuality is to observe them. If a guy turns his head everytime he sees cleavage, he’s probably straight. If he’s gawking at the delivery guy, he just might be gay. (But, if he’s checking out Sharon Stone, he’s probably just confused…) If you’re curious if a friend or co-worker is gay, and you aren’t asking out of meanness, I would suggest you simply ask them.
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Name : Shawn, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 24, City : Fort Worth, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Aviation/Military Police, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Lower middle class,As you might imagine, when something matters to people, they learn to find it. And one thing that matters lots to gay people is finding other gay people. So, yes, gay people are much better at identifying other gay people than straight people are. We learn which clues to look for. (But we’re not perfect; there are no visible traits that all gay people share, and gay people in different cultures behave in different ways.) Strait people rarely develop this skill, because they assume that everyone is just like them – straight. (Even rabid homophobes like Jerry Falwell can’t identify the gay people amid their employees.) Which is why discovering someone they know is gay can be such a big shock, so big that parents cut themselves off from their gay children. So, if sameness is what matters to you, then you find sameness … unless, of course, someone destroys that illusion.
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Name : ThomL, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 56, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Educator, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’m straight, and somehow when I go out with my gay friends, even to a lesbian bar in another state where I don’t know anyone but one or two people, I am never hit on by a same-sex individual. I’m told by my gay friends and those that I just met that it’s because people can easily tell I’m straight. It must be body language.
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Name : Ann23800, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 35, City : Knoxville, State : TN, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
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