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Despite the fact I am only 14, I feel much older. I connect more with my parents and members of their generation who accept me than with my peers. This presents a problem because my classmates do not understand me and many adults are not willing to take me seriously. I am not attempting to mature any faster than I am. Do any other teens feel as I do? Is this wrong?
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Name : J21339, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 14, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States,I was the same way when I was a teen. I finally started making friends with adults when I got my first job and was working side by side with them. And no, you aren’t odd. There should be others at your school who are just like you who’d appreciate your friendship.
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Name : Julie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 26, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Homemaker, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I felt the same way when I was in high school. I think in my case it had to do with being unpopular. I was getting acceptance from adults that I couldn’t get from my peers, and I gravitated to the people who accepted me.
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Name : Laura G, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Methodist, Age : 22, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 4 Years of College,I am 17, and me and my friends all feel old. When we go past an intermediate school, and we see the 11-year-olds swearing and making rude gestures, although we often do this ourselves, we discuss how appalled we are with these children. They are too young, and should not know what any of these words mean. Also, when we hear younger children (14 and below) talking about sex and sexual things, we are very disgusted with this as they are not at a mature enough age. Our school only taught us the basics at 10 – 14 (like, periods and stuff) and we didn’t get any real sex-ed until we were at least 15. Kids these days are growing up way too fast.
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Name : Sarah19528, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 17, City : Auckland, State : NA, Country : New Zealand, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,I’m 16 and a junior, I feel that I don’t belong in my high school. As a young child, I have always enjoyed speaking with adults and those who are older than me because they understand me better. Being mature for your age will leave you lonely in high school. I don’t think my friends understand me as well as my college friends do. I have more fun with my college friends than with kids my own age. I can’t wait for college! I still have two years to go, but right now I am trapped in a high school full of cliques and immature kids.
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Name : Deecie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 16, City : Chantilly, State : VA, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,I know exactly how you feel. I´ve already passed my teenage years and I used to feel the same way. I always preferred to sit at dinners with my parents and their friends instead of kids my age. At 21 I still feel difficulty connecting with my peers and feel that my lifestyle would probably be more appropriate for a 30-something year old. My advice is to just be yourself. If there´s anything I’ve learned in life, it’s that it’s better for people to dislike you for who you are than to be liked for something you’re not. I’m sure you’re a wonderful, intelligent girl with a great future, and you can only learn from people older than you. Don’t worry, you will eventually find your place. Until then, be yourself and enjoy your life.
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Name : Elyse26914, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Pentecostal, Age : 21, City : Helsinki, State : NA, Country : Finland, Occupation : student,Embrace the fact you’re more mature at 14. When I was in high school, I felt the same way and encountered backlash from my peers who were more interested in boy bands and hair styles than philosophy and politics. You’ll get flack from adults, but stand your ground and definitely don’t ‘dumb’ yourself down to be on anyone’s level. You’ll find that once you’re an adult, some of the idiots who looked down on you in high school are either flipping burgers, raising babies, flunked out of college or gorged on drugs.
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Name : Luca, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : Lauderdale Lakes, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Real Estate, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Are you an only child? I am, and for a while I felt the same way. Trust me, you’re better off being mature. Maybe right now you don’t fit in, but pretty soon, people are going to want to be near you because what you say is always right. I went through the exact same thing.
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Name : Jaya, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Religion : Hindu, Age : 16, City : mumbai, State : MA, Country : India, Occupation : student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Yep! I’m the same way. I jam more to the Rolling Stones and The Cure than to any current music. As far as peers your age, just give them time. I’m sure some of them will come to understand you.
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Name : Kit, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 18, City : Evanston, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,I am the same way, except that I identify with the teens I’m around as well, though not as well as everyone else seems to. I can pretty much turn down the ages of wisdom. It helps me to be detached from the situations, realizing that all people have different perspectives and most people of my age don’t see things from my ‘old soul’ point of view. I try not to be judgmental and I find that it gets me further than to impose my views no matter how right they may be. And you will find people like you. I mean, the world is filled with interesting people.
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Name : Aarushi, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 14, City : Madison, State : WI, Country : United States, Occupation : Writer/Music enthusiast, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,I have felt this way. I am older than you, 17, and I still feel this way. I do hate it. I find older people (and me) to almost be uptight. I try not to be. I try to let go of worries and have fun and talk freely about matters that don’t matter.
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Name : Jessica22585, Gender : F, Age : 17, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : na, Country : Canada,I know exactly what you mean. I am 15, and sometimes I feel I act 25. I don’t know if its my own personal experiences, with losing my father and having to be strong for my younger brother. I do feel that I am acting older than I should. I don’t want to be better than my peers, but I feel I have gone through some things they may never understand.
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Name : Shivani, Age : 15, City : St. Charles, State : IL, Country : United States,I look thirty, act somewhere around that age, and feel like I am in my seventies. I think it has something to do with my level of stress, or perhaps even intelligence, or maybe my solemn personality.
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Name : George *******, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class,When adults first see me they think l am a just another kid from the streets. I am 15 and l feel like their age when l talk to them. It’s awkward when l start giving advice or just talk about something with them. lt’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s just that you can handle yourself better in life and people your age are still doing some things that seem childish to you. It’s just that you had to grow up faster and it’s just the way it is. l have to go through the same thing at the high school. There are still people who seem like they don’t want to grow up or they’re just stupid and don’t get it at times.
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Name : Marisa, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 15, City : St. Charles, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,I have felt the same way for so many years that it has gone past the point of frustration. But eventually I find that making friends who are foreign or in organizations that are environmentally conscious or academic related has helped me. There are people like us out there so don’t feel left out. Like my mom constantly says, when you get older you’ll find more people with your affinities and maturity.
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Name : J, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 19, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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