[Flora]

I am a 21-year-old female. When I was 14 and living in a very small country town, I embarked on a relationship with a boy (we’ll call him Tom) which quickly became very serious indeed. We were inseparable, the best of friends and discussed marriage. Early on in the relationship we both ‘came out’ to each other as bisexual, and decided that when we were of age we would have sex with our own gender as well as each other. Tom never acted romantically towards me, saying ‘that sort of thing is just commercialised rubbish’ but we got on so well that I just thought it was the proper, mature way of carrying on a relationship. Eventually we went to separate universities, and you’ve probably guessed what happens by now. Tom got into a serious gay relationship, and dropped me ASAP. However, the most hurtful thing was that he acted as if the 5-year relationship between us had never existed, that he had never cared for me in the slightest, and had only had sex with me because I begged him. He actually used the following words to me to describe his current relationship ‘No dear, you are just a disgusting woman and can never understand the pure and perfect love that exists between two men’. I’m over it now, but I have two questions. Is this sort of experience common? Why did Tom deny that our relationship had ever existed, rather than just saying it was over?

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Name : Flora, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 21, City : Brighton, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : boring financial worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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