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To people who have loved ones who are suffering or have suffered from Alzheimers disease: My mother is in the final stages of the disease. Can you give me any details on how bad they were in their final days?
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Name : concerned daughter, Gender : F, Age : 45, City : Nicosia, State : NA, Country : Cyprus, Social class : Upper middle class,My grandmother died of Alzheimer’s almost 10 years ago. I understand the pain and helplessness you are feeling, but do you really want to hear details? Why get yourself worked up listening to the stories of others when their situation may not even resemble yours? I know you’d like to know what to expect, but no one can tell you exactly what’s going to happen or how your mother will behave. Each case is unique. You just need to prepare for the inevitable. Pray for peace for your mom, and ask others to pray for you and your family through this difficult time.
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Name : Shari28085, Gender : F, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 29, City : Canton, State : MI, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,In the final years of his life, my grandfather had Alzheimer’s disease. But he did not die of it. Even as a young child, it hurt me so much to see him in such a state because I loved him, and still love him, so much. In the final stages, he wandered off from time to time. There were times when he would sit in his chair and stare across the room, as if in oblivion, or just remain quiet for a long time. What was so heartbreaking was that sometimes we would be sitting at the dinner table when visiting him and my grandmother for the holidays, and he would look at us as if he did not know us. Of course this happens to a person stricken with Alzheimer’s – they lose much of their memory. Often times they can forget the simplest things, like forgetting how to tie their shoes, where they put their Bible, or their favorite recipes. At the same time, most people who suffer from the disease are like a very small child; they can go to the bathroom on themselves – you have to literally be there for them every step of the way.
I know this breaks your heart so much because it broke my heart about my grandfather. Even as I respond, I am emotional just thinking about you essentially losing the person you knew to be active, fun-loving and always happy. But I will pray that you and your loved ones stay strong through your ordeal. Just keep in mind that God will see you through this all the way.
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Name : E. Parker, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 23, City : Atlanta, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student,You don’t specify how your mom is now, except that she is in the ‘final stages.’ My mom knew the family somewhat until very late, and although we’re not 100 percent sure, we think she knew me (based on how she hollered at me, as though I’d messed up somehow, when she saw me, which was usual) almost until the very end after having the disease for more than 10 years. She was still calling me by name and doing that about six months before she passed away. In the last few months she still took the same tone but did not use my name. She also had some mobility until the end; but other patients in her nursing home had gone into a kind of fetal position because of the muscle locks that can occur in this disease. E-mail me to discuss this more fully, if you’d like.
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Name : KristaJo, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 46, City : North Reading, State : MA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Hi! I understand very well how you feel, because my grandmother and grandfather died of this disease. It was heartbreaking to go trough all this, because at the end, they couldn’t even talk, My family and I had to take care of them, be ther for them every day, we had to feed them, give them massages for the blood circulation, and do everything for them. I would gladly do it all over again, in this way I gave them back a little of all they gave me. But the pain they were in, I couldn’t stand that. It is very sad to see a person you love go that way. If you want you can e-mail me to talk about it.
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Name : Claudia, Gender : F, Age : 20, City : Hermosillo, State : MA, Country : Mexico, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I understand very well how you feel because my grandmother and grandfather died of this disease. It was heartbreaking to go through all this, because at the end, they couldn’t even talk. My family and I had to take care of them and be there for them every day; we had to feed them, give them massages for blood circulation and do everything for them. I would gladly do it all over again; in this way I gave them back a little of all they gave me. But the pain they were in, I couldn’t stand that. It is very sad to see a person you love go that way. If you want, you can e-mail me to talk about it.
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Name : Claudia, Gender : F, Age : 20, City : Hermosillo, State : MA, Country : Mexico, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,My mother died in November, 1999 from complications due to Alzheimer’s. I moved her in with me 4 years before her death as she was ‘forgetful’. In 1998, I had to put her in a Rehab Center that specialized in Alzheimer’s patients because she became a danger to herself and others. It was a horrible day for me. Even though she could not call me by name at the end, there was recognition that I was someone comforting to her. She ultimately died of a stroke caused by the disease and I was happy for her to finally leave this plane of existence. I am now going to college to learn to be of more help to families affected by this tragic disease. Feel free to contact me if you feel the need.
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Name : Ruthie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Humanist, Age : 53, City : Porterville, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Hi there I would like to respond to the reply that stated would you really like to hear …blablabla….My answer is YES. I am in the same situation as you are, and I too would love to know what to expect. And even though that person stated that each is special, I am sure that there are some things common to all patients. I too feel that my fater is in the final stages of this awful illness and I too would be grateful to any info that anyone could give me.
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Name : David, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Tokyo, State : NA, Country : Japan, Occupation : Education, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I have known about alzheimers since i was really young. My grandfather on my dad’s side, my great aunt on my dad’s side, my mom’s mom is currently in a nursing home. I have watched my grandmother go from good to beyond bad, she has been in a nursing home for the last 9 years, she is now at the point where she just lies in bed, she is not aware of the people who visit her. It is heart breaking to watch someone who used to be so full of life, now as it seems empty. It is a very hard thing to see.
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Name : jen30972, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 21, City : mississauga, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : receptionist, Education level : High School Diploma,i cant say anything about the final stages but my grandma currentyl has the disease. I know its frustrating sometimes and things like that. Most of all just have patience, and like in my case, if they say something hurtful, honestly dont even acknowledge becasue they dont know and understand what they said that offended you. i know my grandma has said somethings but i know she doesnt mean it. Like my grandma sometimes remembers my name or calls me my aunts name, but no matter wahat in their heart they will always know you were there for them and they appreciate it. so dont worry about what is to come, just take peace in knowing you have been there for them.
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Name : n, Gender : F, Age : 16, City : chicago, State : IL, Country : United States,
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