[G.E. Long]

If you would bother to actually comprehend the answers, you would see that the majority of black women who answered stated that YOU are responsible and accountable for how people respond to YOU – regardless of color or gender. Is this about true rudeness, or the fact that quite a few black men feel they can act any way they want, and women are supposed to let them, regardless of how selfish, childish or inappropriate the behavior? It’s been my experience that white and Asian women feel more pressure to have a mate, and will put up with any/all behaviors in order to get/have one; black and Hispanic women do not feel this pressure, so we are not as likely to just tolerate anything, just to say we have a male in our lives. Black and Hispanic women, on the other hand, usually have had to be accountable and responsible from an early age, which makes us less willing to tolerate anyone who is not. By black males having this tendency to put the blame of failed relationships on the other person – never them – this friction has resulted.

I can’t help but think of the ex-husband of one of my cousins, who made an interesting statement when the topic of black/white relationships came up at a family celebration. (His current wife is white, but he continues to attend various family functions, with his children). In being queried about why his relationship with his white wife had lasted longer than with his black one, he stated, ‘My white wife lets me get away with, and do irresponsible and selfish things that ____ would not tolerate. When I was with ____, I had to be responsible.’ Interesting statement!

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Name : G.E. Long, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,