[QueerByChoice]

Your life does not need to fall apart over this. You are deeply in love with a man, and that measns that you are a healthy human being who has not lost his ability to feel love. Labels are not important – they are just words and their only purpose is to enable people to express their experiences in whatever ways make them most comfortable. If you are comfortable defining yourself as heterosexual and loving a man, then trust your own comfort and call yourself what you want. If you are not comfortable accepting the conflict between your heterosexual label and your love for a man, then choose whatever new label for yourself will make yourself comfortable. Make up a new label if you want. For example, if the man you love is named David, call yourself Davidsexual. Just call yourself whatever expresses your own identity best, and don’t worry about what other people call you or about contradictions between your current and past attractions. For example, it is PERFECTLY OKAY to say you are a former heterosexual who is now Davidsexual but who may or may not be heterosexual again in the future. Personally, I consider myself a former heterosexual who has been bisexual for the past 8 years and who intends to be permanently bisexual from now on, but then again I can’t predict the future so anything could happen. But the key is DON’T LET ANYONE ELSE TELL YOU HOW TO DEFINE YOURSELF. The power to define yourself belongs to you and to you alone. P.S. These two websites may be helpful to you: http://www.material.demon.co.uk/bi/ and http://www.crosswinds.net/~queerchoice/

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Name : QueerByChoice, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Sacramento, State : CA, Country : United States,