By PHILLIP MILANO Question: My weight has yo-yo’d most of my life. When I’m heavier, men seem to have more of a negative reaction. Is this because of the media presentation of what the ideal woman should look like? Susan, 45, Flint, Mich. Replies The response I get from people has much more to do with my feelings about myself …

By PHILLIP MILANO Question What do people think of men who wear makeup? J., male, Clay County Replies I once dated a man who wore makeup to cover blemishes and accentuate features. I didn’t think he was less masculine or homosexual or anything. Nan, 25, Albuquerque, N.M. Men who regularly wear makeup should see a psychiatrist. Perhaps certain men can …

By PHILLIP MILANO Question South Asia is very poor. Many South Asians are as dark as black people. So why are most Indians and other South Asians outside of Asia so arrogant, especially toward blacks? Alison, 23, Afro-Caribbean, New York Replies My South Asian friends aren’t arrogant. Your problem might be your attitude, because you make a lot of generalizations …

By PHILLIP MILANO Question To actors and actresses: Is it possible to play a role in which you are falling in love with another person and not have that affect you emotionally? I know it is a job, but the kisses that can curl the toes of audiences must surely curl your toes, as you are an actual participant. Ronald, …

By PHILLIP MILANO Question Is it appropriate to hold the door or go out of my way to help an individual in a wheelchair? Joe M., Sioux Falls, S.D. Replies My girlfriend, a wheelchair user, says to wait to be asked if you’re a stranger. Spontaneous pushing of a wheelchair is invasive and sometimes very frightening. Andy B., 27, St. …

By PHILLIP MILANO Question Are men who’ve had a gender change attracted to men or women? Audrey, British Columbia Replies My transgendered friend is “pre-op male-to-female.” Although she hasn’t had her operation, she presents herself as a woman. She was a heterosexual male attracted to females. Because she still prefers females, she’ll be a lesbian when she makes the change. …