[T-Lynn]

Don’t underrate the power of chemistry to make people stupid. Women date guys who attract them, and lot of the time there’s a component of Dad in the attractiveness equation. How many parents are sane? My Dad was a psychopath. I ended up dating psychotics and deadbeats for a long time. None of them looked like my father, but there were key ways in which they acted like my father. Psychological abusiveness and inability to love were key ‘Dad’ signals that triggered ‘Dad’ chemistry.

I was young then. I don’t take any of that crap now. But by refusing the crap, I find myself mostly dateless these days. No big loss, as far as I’m concerned; who needs the grief? That doesn’t mean nice guys aren’t out there. It’s just that they got snapped up early by women smarter than I was. In my age bracket today, nice guys with brains and a real job are already married or seeing someone quasi-permanently. (I don’t date ‘nice’ married men; they disqualify themselves by asking.) You may be seeing a lot of sweet young things with no clue about the guys they’re dating. They’ll grow out of it, but they may get really bitter about men before they do. If so, they’ll quit dating altogether. As for older gals (30+), they’re dealing with the dregs for one of three reasons: (1) The guy is stinking rich, and she plans to get half of the action. My golddigger sister made this work for her twice – and the guys never caught on to her barracuda nature. (2) Some girlfriend told her she won’t meet nice guys by staying at home. She’s got to at least get in the game, be visible, be available, go out. Maybe her current, dreadful boyfriend knows someone nicer, someone she can dump the jerk for when the time is right. (3) She’s scared that no one will ever love her. In that frame of mind, any boyfriend is better than no boyfriend at all.

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Name : T-Lynn, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Deist, Age : 30+, City : San Diego, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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