[Shanna T.]

These words are just a form of coloquialism that mean something akin to ‘friend.’ I think it is an acknowledgement of sharing the same culture, etc. I’ve had a few white people ask me why we greet each other using the word ‘nigger’ if we are so offended by it. My response is that when those outside my race have called me ‘nigger,’ it’s meant to be offensive. When another black person says, ‘What’s up my nigga?’ it’s a greeting. Kind of a negative turned into a positive. Some older black people do not understand our new age point of view. Some in our age group don’t understand it. But in short, it’s just part of a greeting.

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Name : Shanna T., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 21, City : Oxford, State : MS, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class, 

[Shanna T.]

While I don’t have any trouble attracting men, I have had many men tell me, ‘You’re really attractive…for a dark-skinned woman.’ And, while this is meant as a compliment, I can’t tell you how offended I am because I know these men really believe that darker women aren’t as attractive as light-skinned ones. I happen to prefer dark-skinned men, but light-skinned ones are just as attractive. As for the self-esteem thing…I think that has to do with each individual. When I was younger I was called everything from midnight to a burnt chocolate chip cookie. For a while it bothered me. Then one day I realized that, while I prefer darker men, I found men of all shades to be attractive and knew there had to be others who felt the same. I think growing up being teased about being a darker person is hurtful…but it makes you a stronger, better person when you overcome.

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Name : Shanna T., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 21, City : Oxford, State : MS, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class, 

[Shanna T.]

I think it all has to do with society and, sadly, our own race having this ‘bright is beautiful’ attitude. I’m a dark-skinned black woman and find that I have a lot of light-skinned black women turn their noses up at me. I have even had a few tell me they were considered ‘in’ because they are fairer-skinned than I am. I don’t let it bother me and feel you should pay ignorance no mind.

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Name : Shanna T., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 21, City : Oxford, State : MS, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class, 

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