[Penny D.]

While it may seem that there is a hate/hate relationship between black males and females, I choose to believe it is really all relative. All behavior is learned, and most black men do not grow up with positive examples of male/female relationships. I’ve learned the hard way that much of the displayed hostility that black males express is not directed at us (black women). They are angry about the inequities of the workforce, profiling, absent fathers, hurt mothers, too many siblings under one roof, not enough money and years of trying to love black women who just don’t ‘understand’ their pain.

Our society hasn’t exactly cultivated a race of men known for their ability to communicate their feelings. The result is manifested in ways that far too often are negative and misleading. As a result, black men are, unfortunately, left to be viewed as the ‘creature misunderstood.’

The hate dilemma is not a male/female issue. I feel there is a similar, unhealthy friction between black women. I offer that it’s more likely an internal struggle born to a race of men looking for their ‘preferred’ emotional forum. Black women serve as more of a ‘mirror’ for black men than a captive audience, so don’t take it personally. Many things in life, and men, are often not as they seem. Besides, white men have issues, too. All relationships (including friendships) require ‘work.’

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Name : Penny D., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 38, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : writer/consultant, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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