[Original-Poster19972]

Kat, there is nothing wrong with you having preferences. I am simply challenging the basis of your preferences. What you are saying is that you ask for white males, not because of their race, but because they have the qualities which you ‘click with.’ But I still believe it is race. Ask: why would you think that non-white men do not have the very same qualities which white men have? And why do you think that you cannot ‘click’ with a non-white male? To test your thinking further, if media portrays white women as the pinnacle of beauty, while black women are not as represented, that might create a social preference among men for white women. In that case, if I said ‘I prefer white women as mates because I find them more attractive than black women, not simply because they’re white,’ does that make it ok? Your thinking begs the question, Kat, because you’re saying that you prefer white males because you believe that they have ‘qualities’ that are ‘superior’ to non-white males — that is either stereotyping, or just subtle racism, is it not? Racism is internalized; it affects your belief on what is socially ‘desirable’ or ‘undesirable.’ Your thinking is a reflection of this bias.

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Name : Original-Poster19972, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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