[Mick]

It’s best Josh that you realize your friend is still coming into his own understanding of life & relationships. Society ,the media in particular, constantly pounds us with homophobic, racist, & sexist stereotypes. When I was your age I had friends who were both straight and gay and I got angry when overly macho guys in school would pick on my gay friends. I got picked on also and as long as they didn’t get physical with me, I learned to let their words slide off me like water on a duck. When offensive words come out of somebody else’s mouth, I’ve become very perceptive at sensing their own emotional agony that they cannot face up to. All the words that people say are subjective, no matter how objective they think they are being. Understand that your friend is confused about what he thinks is the way people are ‘supposed’ to be. He’s also worried about his appearance to other’s, which includes himself. If you feel uncomfortable with your friend’s degrading words, tell him about it. What’s most important is that you get comfortable with yourself and be strong in your mind about your wants and needs and who want to interact with. Believe in yourself. Then anything that is derogatory that people say to you becomes in your mind, what it truly is, words out of the mouth of someone who feels insecure.

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Name : Mick, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 43, City : San francisco, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Musician/Jack-of-all-trades, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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