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The noises at the table sound like a lack of manners to me – something any person of any ethnic group can suffer from.
As for the tortillas, well, tortillas are simply a big part of our meals. We do eat some foods with utensils because some foods are simply hard to eat with tortillas, but for the most part, tortillas are a very common option. So relax; when it comes to distinguishing between which is appropriate, I’m sure your boyfriend will understand that over that candlelit dinner on your big night out, his dinner salad will not be served with a side of tortillas! And if he doesn’t get it, be gentle and explain. Sometimes we all need to be reminded of appropriate table manners (I still sometimes forget how to distinguish between the salad fork and the dessert fork!). to MIGUEL: your ‘guess’ is offensive. working class?! how about culture?!
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Name : Marugada, Gender : F, Race : Latina, Age : 30, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States,I’d like to begin by recommending that you be very careful when considering the content of Dave’s message (first response, Original Archives). It would seem to me that angry white men such as he are part of the reason your question exists.
Perhaps the answer lies in this country’s history. Unfortunately for all of us, the white individuals who came before us have left us a racial legacy, so to speak. Thus, it appears that most interactions between individuals are measured against this legacy. It seems clear to me that history has demonstrated that when white individuals purposely exclude others, it is generally fueled by racial bias. And although racial bias may not be behind every white person’s decision to, for example, date only other white individuals, that decision is nevertheless colored by our country’s history.
I don’t have a solution for you, but perhaps you could better understand if you kept in mind that in light of this country’s history, people of color have legitimate grounds for concern when they are subject to exclusions based solely on the color of their skin. Currently, the playing field is not level, and until it is I daresay that race relations will continue to be analyzed through the eyes of history.
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Name : Marugada, Gender : F, Race : Latina, Age : 30, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States,I’m not certain that characterizing most interracial dating as involving a white individual is correct. Perhaps you have a personal reason for taking notice of such interracial couples moreso than you do others; perhaps you see more of those types of couples due to your geographical location. I guess the possibilities are as complex as the individuals themselves.
To anwer your question more specifically, I cannot say that dating a white individual is a status symbol for people of color. To assume that would be to assume that white people are a step up from people of color. This may come as a shock to you, but dating a white person is not always looked at as an “improvement” in the minority community!
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Name : Marugada, Gender : F, Race : Latina, Age : 30, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States,
