[Mark22089]

I grew up in Nashville, not exactly a small town, and I noticed a peculiar thing: whenever my mother wanted a plumber to come and fix things, she would switch from her normal, non-accented English (or ‘American English’) into a Southern drawl. If she didn’t do it, the plumbers thought that she was some uppity bitch, would be late, and would try to cheat her. The more rural I got, the more that kind of phenomenon would repeat itself. Southerners don’t like Northerners, as a general rule, and all of the behavior you’ve described comes from people having decided they don’t like you. On the flip side, Southerners also value privacy and delicacy in conversation, and many direct methods of communication, such as the blunt question, are often met with irritation and as much dodging as possible. Information exchange is a give and take, and does not happen without some dancing around the topic. If you debate, if you contradict or go head-to-head, you run the risk of being labeled a bitch (as you might have noticed anyway), as being far too strong for a woman in that society. Men can get away with (and are expected to), and that kind of behavior from a woman is not considered polite or even acceptable. If you insist on living there, try finding a church or something to attend, to become part of the community around you. Learn the fine arts of communication misdirection and inference, rather than having direct confrontation. I could do neither thing, which is why I left.

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Name : Mark22089, Gender : M, Age : 26, City : LA, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : programmer, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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