[Marie22250]

I was in a similar situation with a gay friend who had moved to a city with lots of cool dance clubs where everyone seemed to be doing ecstacy and cocaine. He was soon addicted and his life appeared to be spiraling out of control. I think that ecstasy and drug use has really hit gay dance clubs and scenes. My friend started with ecstasy, which seemed harmless but then it escalated into cocaine and other addictive drugs. Plus, many of his new friends were using these drugs. The best possible scenario would be for your friend to get professional help – counseling. Cocaine is highly addictive and it can be difficult for some people to stop using. My friend eventually sought general counseling (not drug specific) to help him deal with depression and getting his life back under control. A counselor is trained to give a person advice as to where to seek drug addiction treatment too. My friend is manic depressive and had been very depressed over the loss of a loved one and loneliness from relocating to a new city. He later told me that he didn’t realize how depressed he was until he starting seeing a counselor. There is a still a stigma about seeking counseling and lots of people resist it. To the extent that you can make it clear that you think counseling is a good thing that many people benefit from, this might help. If you have access to a counselor, you might want to consider talking to someone yourself to get some prof. advice. With my friend, I recognized that there were times when it was not productive to have these conversations about his drug use – i.e., when he was being unbearably touchy, defensive, cranky and manic. It was during the down times when he was in total dispair, willing to accept at least the possibility that he needed to make some changes that I would gently talk to him about seeing a counselor. Most of his new friends were drug users but he had one new friend who he revealed was also concerned about his drug abuse. I encouraged him to not shut her out. I always tried to made it clear that I loved him and was concerned about his health and the negative consequences and potential danger of his drug binges and addition. I made it clear that I would still be his friend even if he kept using but that, of course, I preferred him to stop because I was worried. I never facilitated his drug use. It’s a difficult situation. Good luck.

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Name : Marie22250, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 34, City : Ames, State : IA, Country : United States, Occupation : Nontrad College Student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 

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