[John]

I’ve had a couple of black females in my life – dating, non-dating and the ‘stare’ variety. Here’s the story of one of them: I worked with a black woman who was raised in England and involved in a long-distance relationship with another non-American black. We started talking at work about all kinds of high-minded issues. Underneath, my mind was 100 percent on her. We went to lunch once in a while, to a few group outings and to movies or dinner. No hanky-panky, just as friends. On at least four occasions in public places in and around Washington, D.C., we experienced incidents involving black guys who felt the need to vocally indicate that they did not appreciate seeing us together in what must have looked to them like a ‘dating’ situation. Mainly the incidents involved comments in our direction, under their breath, like ‘who the blank do you think you are!?’ But she got the same treatment, including long stares. We ignored the incidents and never discussed them. Her relationship prevented us from dating, but I know we really dug each other, and yet I believe we still may not have gotten together.

Here’s my theory: if a white girl dates a black guy, she’s open-minded. That’s also generally true in the case of Asian/white relationships. But if a black girl dates a white guy, then, in some circles, she’s sleeping with the enemy, or betraying her race, and at least a portion of the black community is comfortable enough with their racism to communicate it in public without any fear of being called a racist. I’m not saying I’m 100 percent right or that this is the only reason, but that that’s what I experienced in racially charged D.C. Plus, if I did more than smile at a woman on the Metro, I’d be concerned she might punch the emergency button and have me arrested (although I did get one woman’s phone number on the Metro once … but that’s another story).

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Name : John, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 30, City : Arlington, State : VA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

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