[Jim]

Should you ask? Oh god, yes, please! I can’t begin to tell you how many family members and friends told me that they ‘had a feeling’ that I was gay when I came out to them. I always ask, ‘WHY didn’t you just ask me—that would’ve made this a lot easier!’ Coming out can be an agonizing, lifelong process, and no matter how many times you share this info with someone for the first time–it’s always that—a first time. Coming out to those who have known you intimately all your life can be the hardest to do. Chances are your brother, if gay, has spent his entire life constructing a ‘socially acceptable’ facade. Especially given the homophobia of your parents. Without knowing what kind of relationship you two have, I can only generalize, based on my own experience. Compassionately Ask! But please make sure you set the question up appropriately by telling him that if he is in fact gay, you’re ok with it. How I wish my older brother had been willing to take the step you are contemplating! He’s wonderfully supportive, but was just afraid to ask…

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Name : Jim, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 39, City : Cleveland, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : graphic designer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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