[Eileen]

Once in researching a story on pedophiles, I read several publications by a group that advocates sex with children, NAMBLA (the National Association of Man-Boy Love Advocates, I think). They believe society oppresses them, and children, by not allowing them to pursue ‘love’ relationships with one another. They argue that kids are more sexually aware than adults want to believe, and it’s wrong to deny them the opportunity to explore their sexuality. My response: 1. Children develop their sexuality gradually and at their own pace (beginning with self-exploration, then ‘playing doctor’ and other sex play with kids their age, etc.) Adults, though, introduce children to sex acts that the child would probably not have discovered yet at that stage of his or her development. This forces children into the realm of adult sexuality before they are ready for it. 2. Pedophiles are attracted to youth – period. When the kid gets older, the adult almost always moves on to another, younger conquest. (In NAMBLA magazines, they included letters from readers who described going through a series of ‘love affairs’ with several children and who preferred children of a very specific age range). For the adult, this is the expected outcome of the relationship. For the child, rejection like this can be devastating. 3. Childhood is the most impressionable and far-reaching stage of life. So, having a sexual relationship with an adult is something that will most likely go on to impact several aspects of the child’s life, including self-esteem and ability to develop and maintain relationships. Adults in adult-child sexual relationships are not nearly this affected by it, whereas children will be affected for life. 4. It is true that children often consent to sex with adults. But there are many reasons for this. Some feel pressured or intimidated; others do it to get approval. NAMBLA suggested that its members develop friendships with kids and take them to amusement parks, buy them toys, etc. Many kids – especially underprivileged kids – consent to sex in order to get things, whether it be attention and approval or toys and trips to Disneyland. 5. In an adult-child relationship, there is ALWAYS an imbalance of power skewered against the child. The adult has rights, privileges, financial freedom, mobility, etc. whereas the child is dependent on adults for those things. Therefore, sex with children is exploitative. Trying to justify it as anything else is delusional.

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Name : Eileen, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 29, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : Writer/editor, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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