[Cindy31938]

I don’t know why people stereotype people by citing one example and then generalizing to the whole group (Asians do this too). This is a common problem that I hear about all the time, in all cultures, Eastern European, Arabic, Indian, Hispanic, even American. Children everywhere are brought up to respect and love their families. It would pain anyone to leave or hurt their families if they loved them. No parent wants to raise a child and have them go out of the country and possibly never see them again or only see them once a year, it’s only natural. The language barrier is a real problem, and it’s not just an Asian thing. Imagine having a member of the family that you can never communicate with because neither of you speak the other person’s language. It’s a real issue and you should consider it seriously. It’s a lot to ask someone to leave their country and family behind, against their family’s wishes. If your girlfriend doesn’t want to do it, it’s not because she’s weak, in fact, she’s strong in the sense that she is willing and able to put her own wishes on the backburner for the sake of her family. It would be so easy to run away and elope, but it’s harder to stay. You are not in her shoes because she is not asking you to leave your world behind to live in Japan. When you consider what that would be like for you, then maybe you would begin to understand the depth of her problems and feelings. This is only the beginning of the cultural or personal issues that you will have with this girl, if you can’t understand this, then you won’t be able to deal with the rest.

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Name : Cindy31938, Gender : F, Race : Asian, Age : 27, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Scientist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

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