[Ceri]

I came out to my sister and a couple of close friends a long time before coming out to my Mum (who I was very close to and loved very, very much, but did find it difficult to talk about anything too intimate with) and my less-close friends, and for me it has been a liberating experience. I’ve found that I’ve started to become a lot more “me” somehow, now that I no longer feel I have to “internalize” other people’s assumptions that I’m straight. I don’t act any differently, but I definitely feel differently about myself and am much happier with the picture of myself that I allow the outside world to see.

I thought of being closeted as lying to those I loved and cared about, and although I’m not out to everyone at work, rumors spread around this company very fast, and so I know that they know (or at least suspect), and I’m happy with that. It’s difficult to like yourself when you consider yourself a liar.

Back to my Mum: I’m very glad I came out to her in the end, because I feel now as though she knew the real me before she died suddenly three months ago. If I hadn’t told her, I think I would feel inconsolably guilty now. I would strongly urge anyone who is anything other than straight to come out to their family if they feel they should. If you lose someone, you may always regret not having been honest with them.

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Name : Ceri, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Age : 27, City : London, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, 

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