[Anonymous23700]

(I’m staying anonymous, because I know weight is a sensitve issue among women, and I’m trying to avoid a flame war.)

My lack of attraction to large women isn’t for lack of trying. I’ve gone out with several ‘big beautiful women.’ By most standards, they were desirable mates — smart, talkative, fun, and pretty. I just felt like I’d no longer be a ‘protector’ (I’ve got a medium build), and that I’d be physically overwhelmed in intimate situations. It’s *not* because I felt embarrassed to be with a large woman, or because society tells me that smaller women are more desirable, although that’s certainly a factor in the dating preferences of some men.

That doesn’t mean I date only ‘Barbies,’ but I feel uncomfortable at a point where a woman just seems bigger than me. Just like women are instinctually attracted to taller men, the majority of men with slight to medium builds prefer to date women that aren’t larger than they are. If they date a large woman, they’re no longer a ‘protector,’ and the match seems unnatural.

I often hear chubby, unattractive men ask ‘why won’t attractive, thin women go out with me?’ People tend to date others that are close to them on the attraction meter. Size is a factor used in measuring attractiveness, unfortunately, by both men and women. Have you thought about pursuing ‘attractive, brilliant and sexy’ large men, who might be less critical of your size?

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Name : Anonymous23700, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, City : Springfield, State : NA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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