[ACC25042]

What your daughter has to deal with are jerks who happen to be blacks who are bullying her. The ugly tone coming through your question is that you always find blacks threatening. You may have passed this attitude onto your daughter, and that may be part of what is fueling her problems. Their ethnicity has zero to do with anything, and I wonder why either you or her would think it does. They seem to be (or pretend to be) from a tougher upbringing than your daughter and take advantage of that fact to intimidate her. Sorry, but I have to wonder if someone who breaks down crying over this even belongs in the military. I had problems with jerks of all backgrounds while in the Army, redneck whites, blacks who were ex-gang members, and sheltered suburban white kids as well. But I found far less racism in the military than outside it. (After all, it’s the only place in America where blacks routinely give orders to whites. Corporate America can’t make that claim.) What your daughter needs to do is stand her ground, no matter what, even if it means the threat of a fight. Every single bully who gave me problems in the Army backed down and proved to be all talk. And frankly, what good is she to this country and the Air Force if she crumbles so easily?

Occasionally I would meet people who would hide behind their ethnicity as an excuse. This may be the case here, but you don’t really say that. The ones who can’t stand this more than anyone else are NCOs of the same background. Any Latino or Indian sergeant of mine always came down much harder on me when I screwed up than on someone black or white, because he did not like seeing us embarrassed as a people by one person’s screwups. The black sergeants I knew could not stand black enlisted men who caused problems, and they let them know it by coming down on them like a ton of bricks. The same thing should happen here. If not, there was always a toll-free hotline to report abuses and problems anonymously. Going AWOL is the worst thing she could do in this situation, but frankly if she can’t stand up for herself and handle this problem, I think the Air Force is better off without her.

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Name : ACC25042, Gender : M, Race : Mexican and American Indian, City : Phoenix, State : AZ, Country : United States, Occupation : Grad student, ex-Army, 

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