[SR28462]

This question is for people who didn’t come out until their mid-twenties or later. I understand that coming out can be very difficult and that many gay people carry on heterosexual relationships until they finally do come out. That said, I’d like to know if closeted gay people have much respect for the opposite-sex people they involve themselves with romantically. Knowing that you can’t give yourself fully to this other person (because you are gay), how can you involve yourself at all and risk their feelings? I ask this because I strongly suspect (as do many of my friends) that my ex-boyfriend is gay but cannot admit it to others or maybe even himself yet. It hurt badly to think of a future in which he might leave me for another guy, and it also hurt in the social sense (feeling as if I was being used as public proof that he is not gay). How can you allow these people to fall in love with you, or have sex with them while wishing you were having sex with someone of your own gender?

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Name : SR28462, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Humanist, Age : 23, City : San Antonio, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

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