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Why is the occupation of full-time, stay-at-home mom no longer respected? As a feminist and full-time mama, I catch a lot of flack, and wonder what’s behind it. Women and men, help me out.
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Name : Gephry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 26, City : Smokey Point, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Mama, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I believe many more people than you may think respect and envy you as a stay-at-home parent. If I had to do it over again, I would have ensured one of us stayed with our kids. Too many social problems exist today that can be directly associated with emotionally deprived kids who were raised by someone other than a parent. Why have kids if you are just going to warehouse them in daycare for the first 5 years of their lives? Two cars, three VCRs, a second home? What are our priorities, anyway? Gephry, enjoy the time with your kids. You will never regret it. This Vermonter envies you.
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Name : Bill23272, Gender : M, Age : 41, City : Burlington, State : VT, Country : United States, Occupation : Accountant/Parent, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Gephry, can the readers assume someone other than the taxpayer is paying to support the two (or more) of you? A husband or partner, perhaps? If there is someone else involved, I don’t see why it is a problem to anyone else except for their own over-inflated ego. On the other hand, if a parent chooses to stay at home at the taxpayers’ expense, I can understand the flack. Why should I have to work two jobs (career and parenting) in order to pay taxes to allow someone else to “choose” to be a stay-at-home parent?
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Name : Jeanine31151, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 32, City : Boston, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : Marketing Rep, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,First, staying at home with the children has never been recognized or valued as the all-consuming, frequently mind-numbing, non-stop job that it is – by either the conservative women-belong-at-home types or the more progressive types. My wife works two days a week – she sees it as her weekend – and we are constantly amazed by people who assume she will some day want to work (for pay) full-time and seem threatened by her choice not to do that. I think progressives are spooked by women who choose to abandon or slow their careers, and perhaps resent it on some level. As for conservatives, you’d think they’d be happy with your choice, but your views (or even the fact that you have any views) bug them. I wouldn’t worry about it.
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Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think that in the fight to gain equality for women, many people have lost sight of the real goal. Feminism is about freedom of choice. I think it is great when women have the means and desire to stay home with their children. I also think it is great that the CEO of Hewlett Packard, and the commander of the last space shuttle mission are women.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Relax and enjoy the decision you have made to raise your children. I don’t believe you will ever regret it. I’ve never heard anyone who has stayed at home with their children comment on what a mistake it was or that they would change it if they could do it over. I know personally that it can be a great sacrifice monetarily to do so, but if more people would get their priorities in order, our nation’s children would learn how to get their priorities in order as well. So let them say what they will, realizing that you and your family are much better off for your decision.
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Name : Judith27002, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 48, City : Lexington, State : KY, Country : United States, Occupation : Marketing/Sales, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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