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I’m confused about how girls think. I’ve been going out with my girlfriend for a while, and we couldn’t get along any better. But I’ve noticed she seems to talk about old boyfriends and the things they did together a lot, almost like she is talking to one of her girlfriends instead of me. It kind of bothers me because I don’t care to hear who she went out with or what they did together. Is there any reason she would share this with me? Or anything I should do? I almost feel like just an object to her. But I want our relationship to work out.
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Name : David25905, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 20, City : Talladega, State : AL, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College,Most girls have been taught to talk to guys the same way they talk to their girlfriends.
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Name : Cynthia31759, Gender : F, Age : 20, City : Kingston, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,If you are going to keep your relationship going, you are going to have to learn to talk. Instead of asking strangers what to do, why don’t you ask her? Tell her what she does that bothers you, how it makes you feel, and ask her why she does it. If the answer is ‘just making conversation,’ ask her to stop.
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Name : Amy31597, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 28, City : Charleston, State : WV, Country : United States, Occupation : Lab tech, Education level : 4 Years of College,She wants you to be better than the old guy, and she wants to prove that it is right to choose you! Don’t make her disappointed. Just show her your outstanding points.
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Name : Sam28533, City : Beijing, State : NA, Country : China,She trusts you enough to speak openly. Is that such a bad thing?
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Name : Ava23412, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 24, City : Alhambra, State : CA, Country : United States,Either your girlfriend is not over her old boyfriend, or she is a complete moron and has no clue that talking about her ex would bother you. Or, their is the possibility she is trying to make you jealous. But probably she is not yet over him, and because you are now the person she spends most of her time with and talks to the most, she will talk to you about it. I would suggest telling her how you feel.
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Name : Jon, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 20, City : Windsor, Ontario, State : NA, Country : Canada, Social class : Upper class,Just a guess based on my own and friends’ personal experience: Maybe your girlfriend is trying to give you hints about what she’d like you to do – i.e. ‘My ex-boyfriend used to take me out dancing,’ she says, thinking she wishes you would do that, hoping that you’ll follow suit and take her out dancing (or whatever), too. Read between the lines; that’s my advice. As annoying as these references may be, it is likely that she’s trying to communicate what she wishes you would do, rather than trying to make you jealous or intentionally being maudlin or anything like that.
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Name : SR28471, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 22, City : Austin, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : student,As a woman who has done this before, I can tell you that your girlfriend is baiting you. She does not want you to question the relationship itself; she wants to gauge your feelings for her by seeing if she can provoke jealousy from you. It is weird, but true. To many women, jealousy equals love, and if you aren’t jealous, we take that to mean that you don’t care.
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Name : Cari M., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 23, City : cinti, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : HOMEMAKER, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Your girlfriend may be talking about the things she did with her old boyfriends because she enjoyed them and maybe the two of you don’t do these things enough. She may be trying to let you know about what she likes or wants to do. If that is the case, she may even feel you are not attentive enough because you ‘don’t seem to get what she is trying to tell you.’ I think that if you want your relationship to work out, you should talk to her about this. Let her know that it bothers you. Stress to her that you care about her and that you want your relationship to work. Although it is difficult to address an issue like this, I’m sure both of you will feel better after you talk about this and find out how each feels.
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Name : A.V., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 20, City : Brooklyn, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : student,You mentioned that she talks about things she used to do. Maybe she is trying to give you some subtle hints or ideas.
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Name : TR24796, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Mormon, Age : 18, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma,Maybe your girlfriend is trying to hint to you that she wants you and her to do the things that her asnd her other boyfriends did together. if her memories of their times doing whatever, stick out in her mind, then the same memorie of you and her will also. maybe she wants to erase the thoughts of the other guys, and place them with you and she’s trying to suttely drop hints. ask her……she can’t lie. =)
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Name : Meghan20747, Gender : F, Age : 16, City : Buffalo, State : NY, Country : United States,To me, old boyfriends are part of my past, so why should I blacken out that part of my life just because I have a new beau? On the other hand, everyone has his or her own reasons, as you have read from other posters, but the best way to approach it is to ask her why, and then tell her how you feel about it AFTER she explains her reasons. It maybe done innocently, and so your emotions toward it may change once you hear her reasons.
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Name : Helen21492, Gender : F, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States,I was wondering what in the female mind would make her think that someone who is trying to engage in a relationship with her that he would copy off of what some other dude is doing. Hell, we spend most of our time trying to be different and original. I think it would be much better if women would just say like ‘I like to dance or I wanna do this and that’, instead of saying it in a way where her old boyfriend would do this or do that. To be honest, it makes us feel kinda inadequate. Like we have to try to live up to another mans standards. Just my opinion, thanks for taking the time and reading….
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Name : James H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 21, City : atlanta, State : GA, Country : United States, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,
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