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Why do women have such a hard time reaching orgasm?
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Name : Sally B., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : American Indian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 45, City : Portage la Prairie, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : cashier, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Lower class,The female anatomy is much different from the male anatomy. Sexual arousal and orgasm is microwave quick for a male, but crockpot slow for a woman. The flip side of this is that good things come to them who have patience. A good book on sex can explain in more detail, and how to speed up the crockpot.
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Name : Ronnie29476, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 50, City : Edmonton, State : NA, Country : Canada, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,Because they or their sex partners don’t know how to stimulate the clitoris properly (or they’re ashamed, or whatever).
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Name : ED25514, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 47, City : Kansas City, State : MO, Country : United States,It’s weird, isn’t it? I think it’s cultural programming. Unlike the majority of women, I can have an orgasm in 10 to 20 seconds, and do it again seconds later, and do it again seconds later. I watched a documentary the other night, and part of the program showed women giving themselves orgasms. They labored, wheezed, sighed, screeched and whined and carried on for several minutes and even hours, and I thought ‘Geez! What’s your problem? How come you women can’t have one? How come you can’t be more like me – and I guess men?’ For me, orgasm is a state of mind and can be achieved through a variety of stimuli, as long as the mind is willing.
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Name : Merry T., Gender : F, Race : American Indian, Age : 42, City : Detroit, State : MI, Country : United States,I don’t think women have difficulty reaching orgasm. The main roadblock I think is an unskilled or inconsiderate partner. If their partner is not interested in pleasing them or is not aware how to do so, it’s very difficult to succeed.
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Name : Chris32212, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 50, City : Norwalk, State : CT, Country : United States, Occupation : professor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,Women are more emotionally attached to sex. Thus, their spirit/mind must be stimulated first before their bodies ‘catch-up’. More romance and foreplay is needed to help get women excited. The more excited she is, the more she’ll enjoy the sex. Also, women must be comfortable with their sexuality. They shouldn’t feel they are doing something dirty, or something out of ‘obligation.’
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Name : Kristina26296, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Plenty of women reach orgasm quickly, easily and often. But for those who do have some difficulty, the reasons could be many. The first question should be, ‘Can the woman have an orgasm while masturbating?’ If she can and doesn’t have them with men, then maybe she is too nervous, or her partner isn’t skilled or intuitive enough to know what she needs to have one. In that case, I’d have the women show me exactly what she needs. There can be medical reasons why women can’t have them, too. Your OB/GYN would be the person to talk to about that.
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Name : Mark A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Detroit area, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : Paramedic, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Could it be that men have a hard time helping their partner reach orgasm?
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Name : Julie27033, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 32, City : Woodbridge, State : VA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I find it hard to climax when I concentrate too much. I think we just have to let go, relax and enjoy the sensations.
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Name : Louisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : Alaska Native, Religion : Bahai Faith, City : Yorkshire, State : CA, Country : United Kingdom, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I think the reason a lot of women have a hard time reaching orgasm during sex stems from the message women get from the time they are children: good girls don’t enjoy sex. Obviously this is changing, but it’s still fairly prevalent. Many women grow up believing sex is dirty or shameful, so they don’t give themselves over to the experience. Also, they are ashamed to talk about it in detail with their partner, so the partner doesn’t know exactly what buttons to push.
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Name : Jennifer30904, Gender : F, Age : 28, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It’s not that we have a hard time reaching an orgasm, it’s that some women have not explored what makes them tick. Some women are skeptical and fearful of masterbating because of religion or societal views, others simply don’t know where to begin, and some are afraid of talking about it with a potential partner. There are several good books for women to utilize (Inga Muscio’s ‘Cunt’ for example). And next time you have an intimate moment with your partner, ASK her what turns her on and gets her off. She may be too shy to ask, but I’d bet she’s not too shy to respond.
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Name : Bri, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Age : 23, City : Albany, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Counselor/Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Sexuality is a complex subject, but I think this question is pretty easy. Either she’s got some emotional/social hang-up, her partner is bad, physical problem, or it could just be a question of mechanics. Woman can be ready to go, just like a man, but in general, it takes a lot of preliminary work to get the motor running to a sufficient degree before the orgasm happens. EVEN THEN regular missionary style sex may not be adequate because of the positioning of the clitoris and the always elusive g-spot. Many women need manual stimulation to have the orgasm in addition to penis to vagina intercourse. I’ve never cared if she has had to do this, I know I would rather have a satisfied partner than be lame in the sack.
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Name : John, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 22, City : Springville, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think it’s because some women don’t masturbate. The majority of men do it and they don’t have problems. I have known women who say they have never orgasmed and when i ask if the masturbate the response is always the same. No. If women self-explored their bodies more this wouldn’t be a problem.
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Name : Bill23253, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 31, City : Ft. Dodge, State : IA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
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