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My mixed Italian/white boyfriend is of an upper socioecomomic class. He refuses to wear Abercrombie, Polo tees, or what people refer to as ‘white yuppie clothes,’ because he doesn’t want to look like the typical rich white-boy. But he can’t wear hip-hop clothes because people then say he is trying to be black. I don’t think this is fair; either way the white guy is gonna be judged. Why can’t he just wear what he wants?
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Name : Geneva, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Catholic, Age : 19, City : Porterville, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College,I think that you should think! about what you want to ware and ware it! This hang-up on what people will think is a load of BS. What did the plain white guy ware before everything became so politely correct and some dumb jerk put his hat on back-to-front.
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Name : RJ, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Scientologist, Age : 57, City : Calgary, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Writer, Education level : Technical School,He can. It sounds as if the only impediments to his doing so are imposed on him by *himself*. He should wear the fashions that appeal to him, rather than trying to meet the style expectations of the nebulous ‘they’. There are lots of instances in life where someone will have *something* to say about whatever one does. There isn’t much anyone can do to control that. What one *can* do is decide whether or not they are going to follow their own dictates or those of others.
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Name : Jennifer31030, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 31, City : Saint Paul, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : Non-profit, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,He can, if he wasn’t so self conscious
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Name : fern, City : LA, State : CA, Country : United States,Of course it’s not fair. But get a clue. That is the society we live in. Does it matter that much what people say and how others perceive him? If so, then the type of clothes he wears isn’t the problem he needs to be dealing with. You’re making a very broad generalization about the different brands of clothes; as if there is nothing in between Abercrombie cargo pants and Fubu T-shirts. Well there is. What abut every-day, normal jeans or tennis-shoes. Clothes with no brand names plastered across the front. Clothes that don’t advertise his outward appearance. Clothes that don’t make him look ‘black’ or like the ‘typical rich white-boy.’ There are other options. You need to take your boyfriend to the the store and buy him some Eddie Bauer jeans and some Adidas running shoes.
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Name : Lizzie22560, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 20, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,Of course it’s not fair. But get a clue. That is the society we live in. Does it matter that much what people say and how others perceive him? If so, then the type of clothes he wears isn’t the problem he needes to be dealing with. You’re making a very broad gerenarlization about different brands of clothes; as if there is nothing in-between Abercrombie cargo pants and Fubu T-shirts. Well there is. What about every-day, normal jeans or tennis shoes? Clothes with no brand names plastered across the front. Clothes that don’t advertise his outward appearance. Clothes that don’t make him look ‘black’ or like the ‘typical rich white-boy.’ There are other options. You need to take your boyfriend to the store and buy him some Eddie Bauer jeans and some Adidas running shoes ASAP.
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Name : Lizzie22561, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 20, City : San Diego, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,At first I was going to suggest that the guy is overly concerned with what other people think, but then I realized that we dress for other people, not ourselves, whether we think so or not. But obviously there are other ways of dressing besides preppie and hip-hop. In fact, look around. Most people don’t dress in either of those styles.
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Name : Rick29834, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, City : Springfield, State : OH, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,He can. He just has to like Nike ‘just do it’.
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Name : Katie26710, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States,White people can wear anything they want. Your boyfriend needs to stop worrying about what other folks think of him. If it looks good on him, no matter with what group of people the clothing is associated.
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Name : Monika20323, City : Houston, State : TX, Country : United States,I say your boyfriend can wear whatever he wants to wear. If he lets outsiders dictate his wardrobe, then that’s more his problem than theirs. Additionally, if his perceptions about how others are judging him are accurate, then he does nothing to change those attitudes by letting them influence his decisions like that. People are going to make judgements about him whether or not he wears the ‘right’ kind of clothes.
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Name : TR24197, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : Newark, State : NJ, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,He can wear what he wants. He just needs to stop worrying about what other people will think of him. This road can be tough, I know because I am an ex-Psychobilly (that’s a cross between a rockabilly and a punk rocker). At first, even though I was comfortable in the clothing and it felt good, I would only wear it when I was going to be hanging out with the ‘group.’ After awhile, I decided that what I wanted was more important than what somebody I did not even know thought about my style of dress. I don’t dress that way now, but I still dress in a way that I am comfortable with. Tell him to worry less about what others think and worry more about how he feels.
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Name : Brooks F., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 35, City : Birmingham, State : AL, Country : United States, Occupation : Network Administrator, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,He should wear what he likes. Forget about people who are going to judge him by his clothes – people who ‘judge a book by its cover’ clearly are not the type of enlightened people you’d want to be friends with. There are also plenty of labels and designers out there who do not feel the need to splash their logo or initials all over their clothing line; in fact, I’d say the more upscale the line is, the less likely there would be any identifying marks on the clothes. By the way, I found when I got out of high school that such little petty things really dropped out of the consciousness. High school is really just a terrible environment that fosters divisiveness.
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Name : Rachel, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 27, City : Boston, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : Attorney, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
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