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Does anyone else have this problem? I cannot urinate in urinals or in front of other men. Is this a problem only I have?
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Name : Paul, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Phoenix, State : AZ, Country : United States, Occupation : Roofer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,This is fairly common and has nothing to do with sex or modesty. It is called “shy bladder” and even Elvis Presley couldn’t urinate in view of others. Once you admit you have the problem and realize it’s nothing weird, you can overcome it, most of the time by doing something mentally absorbing, like trying to think of 20 cities that begin with “M.” Before you know it, the flow will start. (Be mindful of your aim while doing this!) Sometimes, though, if you’re nervous or it’s very crowded, it’s best just to go to a toilet stall. Ninety-five percent of the time I have no problem, but if I am going to a large sporting event, for instance, I try to watch the fluid intake a few hours before.
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Name : Augustine23385, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 38, City : Columbia, State : SC, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,You are not alone. A lot of men have this problem. It has to do with stress. You are unable to relax the mechanism through which your urine flows. I find for myself, it is the prospect of peeing on demand that causes the problem. When it occurs, it usually involves large lines in restrooms, no privacy and a self-imposed need to conclude my business quickly. All of these factors conspire against me and as such I cannot readily pee. I have used biofeedback to relax the process, and this helps immensely. Bottom line: It usually isn’t a hugh problem, just irritating.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States,I too have trouble going in a urinal with other men present in the men’s room. I can’t explain it, either. I told my wife about this once, and she said it was homophobia, in that we are afraid other men present are checking us out. I know damn well that the other men have no interest in what my penis looks like, but it still makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up. I think it is just a grown-up version of “monster under my bed” syndrome. Also, have you ever noticed while in the men’s room that it is always quiet, like a library? My wife says that women have no wash-room hangups. As my wife puts it, “You could be having a big, smelly, poop in one stall and have a casual conversation with a woman in the other stall who is inserting a fresh tampon.” Go figure.
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Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,I also have that problem. Having spoken with many other male friends, I can assure you it is a perfectly normal problem I refer to as “stage fright.” The best way I’ve found to avoid it is to either wait until there is no one in the bathroom, find an alternate bathroom or use the toilet stall.
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Name : Jeremy30943, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 17, City : N/A, State : WI, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,I’m afraid I have the same problem, and generally find myself sitting down in a cubicle automatically. I assume it just goes to show how insecure we are about our size…
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Name : Tom24137, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 22, City : Egham, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,My husband has this problem also, and it is much more common than you think. It is called Paruresis, or “bashful bladder.” Women can also have this. There is no need to be embarrassed, and there is a web site my husband goes to for help. http://www2.cy-net.net/richardz (International Paruresis Association). This has been a blessing for my husband and very supportive. You are NOT alone!
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Name : Jeni-B31003, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, City : Boston, State : MA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College,I have this problem, too, as does my boyfriend. Just wanted to let you know it is not limited to straight men. I have always referred to it as beeing “pee-shy.”
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Name : Scudder28200, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 29, City : Detroit, State : MI, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Shy bladder used to bother me. I’m over it now. I got help at the International Paruresis Association site at http://www.shybladder.org. Check it out if you have shy bladder or know someone who has it. I even wrote a paper about my recovery. you can see it at http://www.geocities.com/jamesslyjr/JustDoIt.htm. If you have it, realize that you are not alone and that there is help for you. Don’t wait; do something about it now.
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Name : Texan, City : Arlington, State : TX, Country : United States,i love peeing in troughs where other males are right beside me peeing seeing as my penis is9 inches long when i have it out of my zipper it is very visiable to the guy beside me iv had nothingbut complements on it
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Name : Dave25972, Sexual Orientation : Straight, City : phoenix, State : ND, Country : United States,
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