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While I can’t imagine anyone being rude enough to ‘sexually proposition’ someone they don’t know while they’re with someone else, I definite have the problem of women almost constantly flirting with and hitting on me, both when I’m with my boyfriend and when I’m alone. When someone (male or female – the gender doesn’t matter) hits on your boyfriend (or you or anyone who isn’t interested in the person flirting w/them)should just say, ‘I’m flattered but I’m dating someone and I’m not interested.’ As for your reaction, your jealousy should be unnecessary if you trust your boyfriend (And even if you don’t trust him, if he’s exclusively heterosexual, you should only worry about women).
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Name : H., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : white Southerner, Religion : Methodist, Age : 25, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : statistician, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Well, I’m puzzled too. Most gay men are not going to be interested in anyone who won’t be interested in return. And a man who is clearly involved with a woman is giving just about the strongest signals possible that he’s not interested. Usually gay men have to think that an advance would be welcomed before they would actually do anything. So, perhaps your friend is giving off signals unintentionally. The best way to find out is for you to ask a gay friend to observe and report back to you and him.
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Name : ThomL24788, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,I am a woman involved in a very satisfying relationship with an attractive male. Quite often in my presence, my mate is sexually propositioned by homosexual men. These men seem to take no notice that we are very much involved with each other and have no interest in other relationships. How should I react to these incidents? They are very unpleasant and upsetting to both of us. Please reply, as I am at a loss.
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Name : Anita, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 40, City : Westminster, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Designer, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Why not respond to them in the same way you would respond to women hitting on him or men hitting on you? Gay men are human beings, not space aliens. Maybe also look at how these situations come about. Is your boyfriend bisexual? Is he sending out signals that indicate he might be interested? I’m not accusing anyone of anything, just pointing out some possibilities. Also, I’ve noticed that the ‘looks’ and body language heterosexual men use to size each other up (as possible threats or not, and so on) are visually identical to the ‘looks’ and body language gay men use to size each other up as mates. Maybe your boyfriend will have to be more conscious of his surroundings and what he is doing in the situations where these unwanted advances occur, and in the process both of you will get a small taste of what it is like to be a gay person in America.
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Name : Eric, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 26, City : San Francisco, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Electronic Publishing, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,It is very unfortunate that you and your boyfriend have to be harrassed (there is no other way to term it). I find it a little bit disturbing that you mentioned in your comment that your boyfriend is sexually propositioned. Is he verbally propositioned, or is it done with body language?? As a gay individual, with lots of friends who are also gay, I find it unusual that he is verbally propositioned, since it is not socially acceptable for men to approach other men, especially in public. That is usually done when there is a green light given, such as eye contact, as a sign of approval for such conduct. If that is not the case, I would speak up, not in a violent way but in an intelligent way, so that this type of harrassment doesn’t continue. If that is not possible due to the demographics of where you are, I would simply ignore it – as many American women do who are sexually propositioned every day in our society.
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Name : Orlando, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States,My wife and myself go out all the time due to my family and involment in the theater here. I have found that a strong NO!! works for us. However I have had problems with this and a NO not being enough. We have found that by being close to each other and my introducing my wife to them has been enough and usually puts to rest the unwanted advances try it I hope it works for you too
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Name : Steven A Love, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 35, City : Stratford,Ontario, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : chef, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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