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Women: Does size matter?
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Name : George L., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 19, City : San Angelo, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : U.S. Air Force, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Lower middle class,You’ll read and hear a lot of controversy about this one. The bottom line is that everyone has different preferences. Some women will say that size does not matter and some will say it does. For me, size definitely does matter. I like a man who’s well-endowed and knows how to use it.
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Name : Been-There, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 54, City : Newport News, State : VA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Yes and no. I think when you are really in love with the person (like I’ve been with my past and present sexual partners), you can overcome almost any physical trait. There are even different sexual positions you can try – some for small guys who want to give the sensation of being larger, and some for big guys who want to minimize any pain that their partners may have. Or, if the guy with the penis isn’t too intimidated, couples can try and introduce strap-on dildos into their play. It’s like having a penis that never gets soft! My last partner was a guy with what I think was a fairly small penis (in width and girth), and while I prefer a larger phallus (larger in girth and in length) we had plenty of good times. For me, girth is more important than length – a penis that’s too long can actually poke our cervix and cause a lot of pain. But every woman is different.
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Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Yes and no. When I consider your question, I’d say that the quality of the relationship and technique are much more important than size. A woman’s not going to care that a man has a large penis if he’s bangin’ away on her like he’s got a plane to catch in 30 minutes. On the flip side, if a man is only three inches when erect, that’s a problem, too. She wants to be able to feel him inside her. I think most women would prefer a man with slow hands, who takes his time to be gentle, is willing to experiment and is considerate of her needs. Oh, and if you’re willing to ‘go downtown and visit the cat awhile,’ that’s a huge plus! I’d say to a man who doesn’t consider himself well-endowed (and remember, we’re talkin’ about the size of your erection): concentrate on the quality of your relationships. A woman who has deep feelings for a man is not going to sit around wishing he was 8 inches instead of 6. Instead, she’s going to remember the time he stopped by with soup and orange juice when she was home sick with a cold. Or how he surprised her with tickets to her favorite play. Those are the things that really matter.
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Name : Maria22226, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 37, City : Topeka, State : KS, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I may not be the one to answer this definitively (I have only been with two men), but I can tell you that I don’t think it matters. My husband was very large, and it was good, but actually kind of painful. My second partner was smaller, but not tiny – probably what is considered average. I have found that it isn’t the penis that gives the pleasure, but the intimacy and the movements associated with intercourse. I don’t know how other women feel, but many of my friends have agreed with me.
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Name : Karen, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 34, City : Davison, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : Accountant, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Yes, we definitely do not want too big or too small. But there is a ton of truth in the old wives tale: it’s how you work it!
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Name : MLE, City : Livonia, State : MI, Country : United States,I would say that extremes are bad, as with everything else. But then again, I guess it all comes down to the woman’s preferences.
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Name : A.P.R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Agnostic, Age : 17, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Yes and no. If you truly are in love with someone, you can overlook just about anything. But if you are just up for a good roll in the hay, then YES, to me, it does matter. I have a preference for a man with a decent sized length (6 or more inches) and plentiful girth. I have had very good experiences with men that weren’t very well endowed because they made up for it with their charm, personality and overall manners.
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Name : Jane, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : San Diego, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Legal Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,WOmens vaginas are ‘shrink to fit’ and there’s not many nerve endings up inside us other than the g spot about two inches deep, so unless it’s smaller than that you’re tehcnically okay. As most men in this day and age know, it’s the clitoris that’s most important, which is located on the outside. Over 90% of women cannot have an orgasm without direct contact to the clotoris and i assume 100% of women can have an orgasm with only clitoral stimulation. However there is personal taste and expectations, which is what i suppose counts. In my opinion bigger ones tend to look sexier, and the idea of a bigger one is just more appealing (and x-rated) however i think if i came across a very large one i’d probably be terrified and not be able to have sex.
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Name : katie26695, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 30, City : ny, State : NY, Country : United States, Social class : Lower middle class,The real answer is YES. However, that doesn’t mean ‘bigger is better.’ That matters is *fit*. Some women have a deeper vagina, and will find a larger penis more satisfying. Others will have a smaller vagina, and prefer a smaller penis and find larger ones painful. This is, assuming all else equal – obviously a man ‘more skilled’ with how he uses it will be better, but given two equally-skilled men, the size matters with regard to relative fit.
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Name : antics, Gender : M, Race : Asian, Age : 25, City : Mountain View, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,This is an issue I have had to discuss often with my current boyfriend — too big hurts, and thats that! I am an extremely, um, small down there and so a very large penis would limit the amount of positions etc. that we could try. He is above average, and perfect, but he talks about how he’d like to be bigger. Yes, waaay small reduces pleasure, but average and fairly above average, are fine. Huge is not.
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Name : Tara, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : 3/4 white 1/4 mexican, Religion : Pagan, Age : 22, City : Raleigh, State : NC, Country : United States, Occupation : Bartender, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Glad you asked! So many guys think the inches matter. They do, but not for the reason you’d think! For me, personally, I prefer a man with a 5′-6′ penis. The thickness matters as well. Anything more than 6′ can be painful. I have dated some really nice guys, but when I’ve found out they are too large, it kind of ends there. I’ve read in Cosmo that your vagina’s supposed to stretch to accomodate a man of any size, as long as you are sufficiently lubricated, but for me, that is really not the case! From my experiences, talking to friends, I’ve noticed women who’ve had a couple children vaginally prefer a larger penis, and woman who’ve had a child by c-section or never had children like an average size.
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Name : Nicki, Gender : F, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 28, City : Sacramento, CA, State : CA, Country : United States, Social class : Lower class,…unless you have a micro-penis, or an absolute whopper, then no. I like average. Nice and average.
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Name : Natali, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 20, City : Vancouver, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Writer, Social class : Lower middle class,I’ve had both. The guys who were well endowed felt more exciting in the actual penetration. On the other hand, my first real boyfriend was not well endowed but a superb lover who spent a lot of time taking care of my needs. If I had a choice I’d take the smaller guy who took the time to ‘Make Love’. Remember, making love DOES NOT start in the bedroom- it is hw you romance and treat your woman that makes you a great lover.
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Name : Fran, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Woodstock, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am pretty ‘direct’ sexually, and I can tell you that, if a man has a small penis it’s extremely disappointing. Love or no love, I like it to be satisfying in bed, even if the orgasm does not happen. If I am horny, I like to do everything I could (anal sex is taboo for me, though), and having a big penis inside me or in my mouth is extremely arousing. My first lover had a very small puny member, but I had no one to compare him to, so we had this puppy love thing going, just teenage stuff, you know, I didn’t care how small he was, he was a great kisser 🙂 My second lover was also small, but I liked to be with him because I chased him for several months – he was drop dead gorgeous. However, sex with him was ridiculous! He was small and a bad lover, besides. My vanity seems pathetic now that I’m 33. My 3rd lover had a HUGE member (he was a tiny scrawny guy, which was funny!), and I kept coming back for more, I enjoyed it so much. I hated him as a person, he was a jerk, basically, but his penis drove me wild. He was a non-generous person in any other respect, but he was generous with sex. Sorry for being verbose – but size definitely DOES matter! Most women like myself like to be dominated, sex is about that, when a man has a small one, it makes him weak in my eyes, and I don’t want to sleep with a weak man. I guess any woman who says it does not matter is either too prim, too sweet, or not experienced enough… A huge member is like a drug – you need it once you know how pleasurable it is. As far as orgasms and all that, hey, I could always masturbate.. orgasms is another area entirely. Huge penis does not make you come automatically, that much is true, but, since I don’t come easily anyway, I get my fun in other ways. But it helps if I am aroused 🙂 And what arouses me? Riiighhht – a big penis! Seriously.
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Name : Marsha29401, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Orthodox Christian, Age : 33, City : San Francisco, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : web designer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
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