[J.W.]

My boyfriend is in his mid-thirties and does not like for me to look at his penis. After we have sex, he covers his penis up. When he showers or needs to get dressed, he will change in another room. He even gets offended if I sneak a peek at it. He said he does this because he is shy. We’ve been together a little more than a year and he still doesn’t feel comfortable being naked in front of me. Is this normal, especially for a man in his mid-thirties? I don’t think it is, and wonder if perhaps he was abused as a child or something. I’ve always thought that men were proud of their tools. It seems like he’s ashamed of it or something. I don’t think he’s ashamed of the size, either.

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[anonymous23684]

His parents were probably just a bit overzealous in teaching him to cover up in public. If it wasn’t his parents, then maybe he had a bad experience at school. I think it is unlikely to be abuse, as that usually has the opposite effect. Either way, I’m sure it would help if he were to track down the event in his past that has caused his shyness.

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[Murray C.]

As a man in my thirties, I can relate to the same problem of being self-conscious of my genitals. Maybe your boyfriend got sized up one day in gym class and hasn’t been the same since. I speak for all men when I say we are never happy with our genitals. Even if a man has a rather large penis, he may complain about the shape, color or even the way it dangles. I was the same way with my girlfriend (now my wife), and she couldn’t understand it, either. My suggestion is just to give him time. Simply don’t bring up the subject and eventually he’ll realize that if it doesn’t matter to you, it shouldn’t matter to him. Eventually, he’ll come around.

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[dave-taylor]

tell him you think it is beautiful and yo like to look at it a lot

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