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Sweety, Im married to an Asian man and Im white. All white people dont think we’re pompous and higher up than anyone else. Growing up I was the poor one, I was the one getting help from the blacks, I was virtually the only kid in town who would get picked on for being an ‘N-lover’. So dont come off thinkin’ all white people are the same. We indeed have our ignorant racist people, our holier-than-thou people and all that jazz, but please…every race has that. Dont make it out to be what its not.
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Name : JessTsab, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Norfolk, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : Military Police, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Assuming the people approaching are making a friendly overture, I agree that changing languages is rude. Multi-national groups that I have been around would usually respond to the approach of myself or other English-only people by saying, ‘The Americans are joining us; we will speak English now.’ While I was embarrassed to be so limited, I was grateful for their consideration and politeness.
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Name : C-Snyder, Gender : F, Age : 35, City : Sonora, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,White people in general or just you!I`ll wager it`s the latter!Work on making an asian your friend and see how your treated!It may be as simple as a matter of ‘TRUST’!
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Name : therocdoc24757, City : aurora, State : CO, Country : United States,I live in Miami. Many people speak Spanish here. Sometimes professors and students will discuss questions in Spanish. We don’t think it is rude. I am a Taiwainese. I speak Mandarin Chinese. When we are with people who also can speak Chinese, we feel comfortable to speak the same language.In fact, we will try to avoid speaking our own language when we are with foreigners. Moreover, if one person who can speak Chinese but he or she speaks English with us, we will feel very weird. Sometimes, it will be seemed some kind of showing off.
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Name : Ying-Yao, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Age : 24, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It is a far reaching conspiracy amongst the Asian people you come in contact with. They meet every Saturday to discuss how to be rude to you personally by speaking in their native tongues
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Name : Ken, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 41, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : IT Manager, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,When I was in college my dorm was majority-Asian and my sophomore year I was one of only 4 white people on my floor. Most of the students around me that year spoke Cantonese as their first language, and preferred Cantonese over English. It was socially awkward for me but I learned a lot about myself and about what it means to be a racial minority. People are switching to another language when you walk up to them? Maybe they are, maybe they aren’t. Is it just to exclude you? Maybe, maybe not. You don’t know. All you know is that you feel uncomfortable about it, and understandably so. Now you know what it feels like to feel excluded (whether or not you actually are) based on your race and language. Let that experience teach you sensitivity for others who experience those feelings all day, every day, and who don’t have the option, as you do, of just walking away from it. My advice is, one of these days don’t walk away from it, but just try to be friendly and reach out. You might make some new friends.
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Name : Jeremy30937, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 27, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Political Technology, Education level : 4 Years of College,It’s because we’re all talking about you, you know b/c we REALLY give a shit about you. Generally our translated conversations go something like this: ‘Quick talk Korean now, here comes stupid white person.’ ‘oh, are you serious? haha – now he doesn’t know what were are saying and we can talk about him!’ ‘yeah that guy sucks, what a douche!’ So you see now that you know that all the Asians are talking about you, I hope you feel more at peace with yourself.
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Name : Missy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Korean-American, Age : 22, City : Honolulu, State : HI, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,as a malaysian-chinese who converses in malay, chinese, and english, and studied overseas i can tell you that: a) a lot of things native to us are much better expressed in the native language. food, culture, idioms, tales, adjectives, etc. b) if you were a foreigner in a different country, you would tend to bond very well with fellow countrymen. simply because of the amount of things shared between you, including language. reverting back to the native tongue becomes so natural, it can be unconcious. not to mention it is an expression of national pride, which always jumps up a few notches when you’re in a foreign land. c) when there is a means to conversing privately, why not use it? think about it, if you could speak a totally different language with a friend, wouldn’t you use it sometimes to check out the girl across the room, or say that you’re nervous about the presentation later? what about the funny languages and code words we invented as kids? aren’t they pretty much the same principle? i think if you really observed what happened, you’ll find that these asians were most likely already in a conversation that was dual-languaged before a white person approached, and that this occurs whether person approching is white, black, or whatever race. it’s only rude when say the 3 of us were already in a conversation, and i talk to my friend and start rattling on in malay. IF you notice an automatic switch to native language when YOU approach and not anyone else, then they are probably talking about you. perhaps you were ‘approaching’ them too often?
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Name : Lish, Gender : F, Race : Asian, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : KL, State : NA, Country : Malaysia, Occupation : student, Education level : High School Diploma,
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